Remedy said:I've never had one girl interested in me ever or really show me that they might like me. Besides that, all I ever knew was put downs since in the past girls would walk by look at me and laugh saying ewww. Or like random little girls coming up to me and saying "you're ugly".
I noticed you said 'in the past' - how long ago are we talking? And has anything like that happened recently?
Why is it that guys such as my friends get so much attention from girls and people like me get absolutely none? I mean like random girls would just flirt with my friends that don't even know them or smile and laugh when they were around. But it seemed like I was invisible and not even there half the time. I guess I'm the complete opposite because I think for most people there has to be an attraction physically to someone for that person to even have a chance.
It seems to me like maybe you make yourself invisible? If you are that frightened or scarred from horrible comments people have made in the past, it makes sense to react this way.
I am a girl who used to always have horrible comments thrown at me left right and centre about the way I look. I got bullied badly as a child all throughout school.
This made me unconfident in who I was and what I looked like, paranoid even.
But now I'm older I have changed my way of thinking. I am not the person I used to be - and I do get guys interested in me these days. Yes I still am not the most attractive person in the world, but I've realised that those comments don't define me - one or two (or however many) opinions doesn't automatically mean everyone will think this way.
Everyone is different, so give yourself the chance to realise that.
I'm just to negative and stubborn to ever change the way I am so I'm probably destined to live a life of solitude.To top it all off, I'm also extremely socially awkward and even when I try not to be I fail. Sorry shouldn't have even posted this and I'm not trying to hijacc the thread but I just wanted to respond.
Stop being so negative and look forwards, not backwards. If you are forever living in the past or in the 'what if's then you'll never get over this. Stop analysing how you are socially and just get out there and do it. Practice makes perfect after all.
Good luck
Original topic:
It is easier for girls to project to a group of guys that she wants attention without even talking (wear a short skirt, low-cut or see-through top) guaranteed at least one guy (even if he is seedy) will talk to you.
Guys cant compete with that, they can't instantly throw out the message without talking that he wants some attention, what the hell would he wear to do this?!