I've been wondering for some time now, beyond focusing on what brought me to a point where I am lonely, what actual solutions are there? I mean, it is very comforting (at least for me) to rant and rant about how lonely I am and how it's not fair because I'm such a nice guy and really do want friends bla bla bla, and it helps me feel better for some time, but it doesn't actually help me solve the issue. Or I might just focus on something else to distract me completely from my loneliness, like surf the internet for hours on end, or watch a movie, or I might "comfort" myself by self-reassurance ("it will be okay, everything will turn out fine etc..") but at the end of the day, I am still pretty **** lonely.
And what bothers me most is the realization that if I don't DO something in order to rectify the problem (actually rectify, not run away from), my loneliness will not magically disappear one day. This realization is a blessing because it shows me reality as it is, and at the same time it's kind of like a curse because it shows me reality as it is.
I personally don't want to continue running away from my issues, so I decided that I'd see a therapist - only time will tell if it actually helps...
Have any of you been in therapy? Is there anybody here that's gotten over or at least improved the social issues and/or loneliness? If so, how have you done it??
And what bothers me most is the realization that if I don't DO something in order to rectify the problem (actually rectify, not run away from), my loneliness will not magically disappear one day. This realization is a blessing because it shows me reality as it is, and at the same time it's kind of like a curse because it shows me reality as it is.
I personally don't want to continue running away from my issues, so I decided that I'd see a therapist - only time will tell if it actually helps...
Have any of you been in therapy? Is there anybody here that's gotten over or at least improved the social issues and/or loneliness? If so, how have you done it??