looks and verbal abuse

[unlucky in life]

sorry again i have serious question.sorry to be annoying with all question i have no social life and no friends ,guys hate me they never say sorry either .i often wish i was dead because what i have been through .

i have been verbal abused and rejected because how i look i am heavy ,short , big face uneven eyes ,bad skin not great teeth ,no amount products fixed this problem
is because how i looks brings on verbal abuse from males who i like and pure hated verbal abuse even physical abuse even attacked !

does being ugly looking female bring out aggressive side in men like they have done with me . the counsellor said i was the problem no lie .but i can't how i look its genetic .

it just seem strange when i try to know a guy i get shut down they even hostile almost every single occasion

its very strange .now i am afraid now because how i look brings out aggressive animal in guy very scary so i stop trying to get know guys

no one denies i am not ugly looking thats no lie either !

 

[nerdygirl]

I don't think it's your appearance that draws out the aggressive nature of men. Consider your experiences here. We have no idea what you look like. However, people here have been very frustrated and upset with you at times.

 

[unlucky in life]

I don't think it's your appearance that draws out the aggressive nature of men. Consider your experiences here. We have no idea what you look like. However, people here have been very frustrated and upset with you at times.

yeah but they don't do that good looking tall slim women as men put it sexy looking what ever that is . its just strange they have been doing that since i was 13 years old ,men nautre is hostile but that to women they fancy ! you see what i mean .

 

[Arsenic Queen]

Sometimes when you try too hard to get men's attention and you're "not their type", they will let you know in a rather aggressive way in fact. They will clearly avoid eye contact, and ignore you. It's better to NOT seek contact with them too much if you see this kind of attitude, ELSE you're bound to get told/demonstrated harshly that they are not interested. This seems to be what you are getting.

If you don't think your looks are good enough, work on them. If you refuse to work on them, accept that people might not like them. It's simple. Either you work on your side of the fence, either you accept it the way it is, with the social consequences that come with it.

Work on your fitness, find clothes and shoes that work for you, find your best hair color, find hairstyles that work for you, find make-up styles that work for you.

How? Trial and error. Try styles and see how people react. Get yourself an immense mirror and look at the whole of what you look. How do you feel? It can also help if you pay better attention to the people similar to your shape which you think look beautiful. Some short and heavy women are sexy. See how they do it and try their hair/make-up/clothing tricks on yourself.

If you need more specific advice about "style" and "beauty", there's specialists for that, but they are not free. You can also seek tutorials online. Check "hair tutorials", "make-up tutorials", and google "clothes" and "tips" together.

 

[unlucky in life]

Sometimes when you try too hard to get men's attention and you're "not their type", they will let you know in a rather aggressive way in fact. They will clearly avoid eye contact, and ignore you. It's better to NOT seek contact with them too much if you see this kind of attitude, ELSE you're bound to get told/demonstrated harshly that they are not interested. This seems to be what you are getting.

If you don't think your looks are good enough, work on them. If you refuse to work on them, accept that people might not like them. It's simple. Either you work on your side of the fence, either you accept it the way it is, with the social consequences that come with it.

Work on your fitness, find clothes and shoes that work for you, find your best hair color, find hairstyles that work for you, find make-up styles that work for you.

How? Trial and error. Try styles and see how people react. Get yourself an immense mirror and look at the whole of what you look. How do you feel? It can also help if you pay better attention to the people similar to your shape which you think look beautiful. Some short and heavy women are sexy. See how they do it and try their hair/make-up/clothing tricks on yourself.

If you need more specific advice about "style" and "beauty", there's specialists for that, but they are not free. You can also seek tutorials online. Check "hair tutorials", "make-up tutorials", and google "clothes" and "tips" together.

Sometimes when you try too hard to get men's attention and you're "not their type", they will let you know in a rather aggressive way in fact. They will clearly avoid eye contact, and ignore you. It's better to NOT seek contact with them too much if you see this kind of attitude, ELSE you're bound to get told/demonstrated harshly that they are not interested. This seems to be what you are getting.

how do i know i am there type there no manual to tell me .so i know how it help to know any way this has me end up counselling for several years old i have stressed and even suicidal over it it have me driven me crazy next insanity no joke to stage where i am physical pulling out my hair

 

[Arsenic Queen]

how do i know i am there type there no manual to tell me

If you were their type you wouldn't have to question it. They would make it VERY obvious. Men are not subtle.

 

[paulo]

I don't think it's your appearance that draws out the aggressive nature of men. Consider your experiences here. We have no idea what you look like. However, people here have been very frustrated and upset with you at times.

not much more i can ad to that.
i hope you understand what she is telling you here.
this is more the cause of your problems than your looks.
if you were beautifull some people might be willing to put up with your behaviour a little longer.
but eventually you would get the same treatment as you do now.

 

[Arsenic Queen]

I don't think it's your appearance that draws out the aggressive nature of men. Consider your experiences here. We have no idea what you look like. However, people here have been very frustrated and upset with you at times.

not much more i can ad to that.
i hope you understand what she is telling you here.
this is more the cause of your problems than your looks.
if you were beautifull some people might be willing to put up with your behaviour a little longer.
but eventually you would get the same treatment as you do now.

I have to agree with that too. :/

 

[EveWasFramed]

... how i look brings out aggressive animal in guy very scary so i stop trying to get know guys

*pulls out hair*

 

[paulo]

little thing i wanne ad,

no one deserves to be abused, so people abusing you is just wrong.

but i do understand why people might get angry with you, or choose to ignore you completely.
and it has nothing to do with your looks.

 

[unlucky in life]

... how i look brings out aggressive animal in guy very scary so i stop trying to get know guys

*pulls out hair*

yes i ripe some hair out my head

 

[Lonesome Crow]

How i look brings out aggressive animals in women too,
I pull their hair for them.lmao

 

[unlucky in life]

how do i know i am there type there no manual to tell me

If you were their type you wouldn't have to question it. They would make it VERY obvious. Men are not subtle.

yeah i gather that by counselling bill .it makes me sad why there is such problem with me they highly aggressive towards me with no reason given ?

If you were their type you wouldn't have to question it. They would make it VERY obvious. Men are not subtle.- this i don't understand men wore only front with when they hated enough for me to seek counselling for about 10 years i have been in counselling over it found no answers i am very sad and very lonely because i don't understand they hatred for me ?

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How i look brings out aggressive animals in women too,

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I pull their hair for them.lmao

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i don't find that funny at all

 

[paulo]

i get that you dont understand why people dont like you.
you behave in a way that upsets people.
but you dont know you are, you dont see it.

when we try to explain it you dont listen or you dont understand.

do you have problems getting along with women (as friends) as wel or is it just men ??

 

[unlucky in life]

i get that you dont understand why people dont like you.
you behave in a way that upsets people.
but you dont know you are, you dont see it.

when we try to explain it you dont listen or you dont understand.

do you have problems getting along with women (as friends) as wel or is it just men ??

just the men i went strict catholic all girl school when i was child i have never saw boy till i was 13 years i got verbal abused on my 1st day at school by lad in my class he called me names 9.05 am sept 1st of 1st year of school the same another guy in my class try to use my head as punching for no reason school hall i didn't say another to him for him attack that i am ware of .it has been like that every since different male from different places different situation

 

[paulo]

i get that you dont understand why people dont like you.
you behave in a way that upsets people.
but you dont know you are, you dont see it.

when we try to explain it you dont listen or you dont understand.

do you have problems getting along with women (as friends) as wel or is it just men ??

just the men i went strict catholic all girl school when i was child i have never saw boy till i was 13 years i got verbal abused on my 1st day at school by lad in my class he called me names 9.05 am sept 1st of 1st year of school the same another guy in my class try to use my head as punching for no reason school hall i didn't say another to him for him attack that i am ware of .it has been like that every since different male from different places different situation

well people and especially kids can be verry meen for no reason.
but i do thing the way you act and feel about yourself makes people like that pick you.
you might be atracting meen people cause its easy to pick on you.

 

[Nolife Princess]

LSE- work on that, and I promise no matter how you think others see you, you will not care.

 

[unlucky in life]

i get that you dont understand why people dont like you.
you behave in a way that upsets people.
but you dont know you are, you dont see it.

when we try to explain it you dont listen or you dont understand.

do you have problems getting along with women (as friends) as wel or is it just men ??

just the men i went strict catholic all girl school when i was child i have never saw boy till i was 13 years i got verbal abused on my 1st day at school by lad in my class he called me names 9.05 am sept 1st of 1st year of school the same another guy in my class try to use my head as punching for no reason school hall i didn't say another to him for him attack that i am ware of .it has been like that every since different male from different places different situation

well people and especially kids can be verry meen for no reason.
but i do thing the way you act and feel about yourself makes people like that pick you.
you might be atracting meen people cause its easy to pick on you.

most of those of guys who do it to me now are in 20s and 30s not children it pattern has came with through teen ,20s now 30s the pattern of abuse has not change men hate me because i am not as one guy point out hot good looking and young .i am not worth because how i look so must be verbal abused any way i am sick of it being pick on just i am not good looking tall and skinny told i am worthless piece of honeysuckle because how i look and my age. they do point out i am ugly looking and fat not worth there time they let me know that i am not worth with no messing very straight about it .to my face in very cruel and aggressive way i have has enough of it !

 

[paulo]

people who say that to you are ********, not worth listening to.
they are stupid and know nothing.

but you believe what they say is true, and think/act like youre not worth anything.
bad people are atracted by that, and will abuse you cause you make it easy for them.

ignore people like that.
what they say does not matter.
stop worrying about that and find some nice people.
but dont try to hard, or push it.
if someone doesnt like you leave them alone.
move on to the next one, till you find people that do like you.

 

[VanillaCreme]

People don't have to say they're sorry to you, Unlucky. They don't. Simple as that. And as far as you being verbally abused, I think you put yourself in situations to be verbally shot at. From what you've told in your past threads and posts, you basically stalk people via Facebook and such, and when you're told by these people to leave them alone, you refuse. What else can they do but say something to you when you refuse to leave them be? Do you expect them to just put up with you?