VanillaCreme said:
ardour said:
Waste of time posting it here, but at least a dozen studies support this.
Cupid on Trial
The 2 most attractive women received 83% of messages.
The 2 'average' looking women both received more messages than the 'most attractive' man.
The 'least attractive' woman received more messages than the bottom 3 males combined.
Tinder Experiment - 2 people of roughly equal attractiveness - she receives 2.6 times as many matches, 13.5 times as many messages.
For sake of argument, let's assume half those messages are genuine, not offensive or lazy spam, that's a hell of lot more potential romantic connections available to women.
The overweight guy in the first study who received zero messages after 4 months - do you think anyone cares whether he's bitter or not?
Why would he be? So what if he didn't get a message... Expecting one is putting too much faith into these dating apps and sites. I most likely wouldn't get any messages either. But I'd rather get none, than get 50 meaningless messages with people I wouldn't connect with at all. What's a real waste of time is wanting to get 100 messages from people you really don't care for.
All this shows (especially with tinder) is that guys want to try to get laid more. I'm sorry, but that's ALL it shows. Men are looking for sex more than women are, so of course they are going to try more and message the "hot sexy girls." Which is really why these "studies" are bullshit and mean nothing.
But okay, let's look at this. I don't really feel those two women are all that much more attractive than the others. What IS noticeably different is the quality of the pictures. The "more attractive" two have pictures that are a honeysuckle ton better than the others. The one employing more of a body shot, which shows her boobs and some skin (OMG, BOOBS AND SKIN *tongues be a wagging*) and the other is using a filter.
Based on looks alone, I wouldn't give the 4th guy (the "best looking" guy) a second glance. He looks like a pompous ******* to me. I would message the last guy. The first guy scrunched up his face (I need to see the eyes), the second guy looks depressed as fresia, the third guy I'm not sure but I don't like his eyes. But the last guy looks kind and relaxed.
But going off what Nilla said, why is it that people think dating apps are this magical fix? Do you think you can hide your honeysuckle online and you can't in real life? Fix your issues people...it's not them, it's you. Make all the excuses you want, post all the stupid studies you want and call them proof, all you're doing is trying to force the blame away from yourself. Sure, you're going to get rejected for messed up reasons that have nothing to do with your issues, but those are shallow people you shouldn't really want anyway. EVERYONE gets rejected. How you deal with it and what you do as a result decides what will happen in the future. A few of you have become negative and/or bitter and THAT is what is stopping you, for the most part.