--Lanie--
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I know this may sound like a weird question for you but please tell me
HOW MUCH SOCIALIZING DO YOU THINK IS NORMAL? like how many times a week an ordinary grade 12 student with no social problems should go out with his/her friends and that kind of stuff?
In my first thread i was trying to figure out what is wrong with me, i was kind of embarrassed to talk to my mom, but then i finally did, and she suggested that maybe it's cultural and people in north america are generally busier than in europe and it's okay for them to say "i've got a lot of homework" to your invitation and that that doesn't mean they don't like you... I'm coming from a very "laid back" country, where people don't really care about classes and homework and just drink and party no matter what (then their parents pay and they enter universities and teachers don't let their students fail either ) (and that is basically why we moved, my mom decided this was not a way to go) and this summer again i went there, lived for months at my friends place, we lived alone the two of us and there was always a bunch of my friend's friends there no matter what time of day or night so it was basically a non-stop two months long party. and then in september i came back here again.
I take excuses like "i have too much homework" VERY personaly. It sounds to me like a person didn't even bother to make something believable up but wanted to make it clear he doesn't want to be associatd with me..
For me a person who i talk to everyday or go to some "common interest club" is NOT a friend yet. A firiend is someone whose place you can come to anytime, and who will go with you anywhere and with whom you hang out at least 2 times a week and almost everyday during holidays.
a close friend for me is someone who you can call anytime day or night, who you hang out with almost everyday no matter holiday or weekday or whatever and stay over anytime you want and basically sometimes even live with (like i did).
An acquaintaince is somone who you hang out with approx. 2 times a week, you have to call and ask if he's busy before coming..
As it stands, i don't even have aquaintances!!! This is horrible!!!!
So back to my question how much 'socializing" do you think is normal for a normal grade 12 student??? :rolleyes2: Please help me. answer
HOW MUCH SOCIALIZING DO YOU THINK IS NORMAL? like how many times a week an ordinary grade 12 student with no social problems should go out with his/her friends and that kind of stuff?
In my first thread i was trying to figure out what is wrong with me, i was kind of embarrassed to talk to my mom, but then i finally did, and she suggested that maybe it's cultural and people in north america are generally busier than in europe and it's okay for them to say "i've got a lot of homework" to your invitation and that that doesn't mean they don't like you... I'm coming from a very "laid back" country, where people don't really care about classes and homework and just drink and party no matter what (then their parents pay and they enter universities and teachers don't let their students fail either ) (and that is basically why we moved, my mom decided this was not a way to go) and this summer again i went there, lived for months at my friends place, we lived alone the two of us and there was always a bunch of my friend's friends there no matter what time of day or night so it was basically a non-stop two months long party. and then in september i came back here again.
I take excuses like "i have too much homework" VERY personaly. It sounds to me like a person didn't even bother to make something believable up but wanted to make it clear he doesn't want to be associatd with me..
For me a person who i talk to everyday or go to some "common interest club" is NOT a friend yet. A firiend is someone whose place you can come to anytime, and who will go with you anywhere and with whom you hang out at least 2 times a week and almost everyday during holidays.
a close friend for me is someone who you can call anytime day or night, who you hang out with almost everyday no matter holiday or weekday or whatever and stay over anytime you want and basically sometimes even live with (like i did).
An acquaintaince is somone who you hang out with approx. 2 times a week, you have to call and ask if he's busy before coming..
As it stands, i don't even have aquaintances!!! This is horrible!!!!
So back to my question how much 'socializing" do you think is normal for a normal grade 12 student??? :rolleyes2: Please help me. answer