Triple Bogey said:
TheRealCallie said:
You only fail when you stop trying. If you keep trying, it's not failing, it's just learning. So learn from your mistakes and try again.
This may apply to certain things but not men asking women for a date.
A guy asks a woman for a date and she isn't interested. What 'mistake' has the guy made ? None, the woman wasn't interested. End of story.
So he asks another woman and she says 'no' - he isn't learning anything. He is only getting more and more dejected because women keep rejecting him. Women don't usually say why they say 'no' to a guy.
That's why it's a vicious circle for many men. And that's why it's wise to stop looking and start focusing on other things.
Okay, first, it goes both ways. Women DO ask men out too.
Second, it DOES apply there too. If you aren't learning something from being turned down, then you aren't looking hard enough. Yes, sometimes a woman is just not interested, but it could be the way you present yourself, the way you dress, the way you ask or even when you ask, it could be any number of things.
There are ALWAYS lessons to be learned. The type of rejection or "failure" doesn't matter, if you aren't learning something from it, you aren't looking for a lesson TO learn.
And no, women (AND men) don't usually give a reason why, but it's not their obligation to give a reason. But yes, focusing on other things if you are not succeeding as you want to, regardless of what you are attempting, can always be a good thing, as it might give you time to think of something you didn't realize at first because you are focusing TOO much on what you want.