Hey , its been awhile... I've been stopping for all of this approaching thing for a two months. I mean , due to problems i didn't get the chance to socialize as much as i did months ago. I were talking to all kinds of people in work and places like that , even in bus sometimes (but rarely) , so the hard months with problems get away and now when it's almost winter over season i want to get close to people again.
But here is what my problems are right now (im thinking of the biggest in my mind right now) :
1.Maybe the social anxiety - when im alone or with my parents at home im confident and most of the time relaxed and calm , and even with people i talk much time with. But with completely strangers.... it's like mission impossible to me if it's on the street or park or whatever ....
2.I have back problems and i can't go to gym , not to mention i can't concentrate normally because of the pain all my mind is on it and it's like my mind blocks when i try to meet a person (and i just pass them by with nothing )....
Today i was confident enough , i though it is a really sunny and cool day i get up earlier ive been motivating myself with videos and all kind of stuff like that , it was pretty ok till i go out and when some time (5-10 or more minutes pass) the back starts to hurting and it's the nightmare repeating again... No approaching people , no overcoming social anxiety ( other thing is im going alone without any people by my side) , why is it like it? When i was at work and i took my pills and meds the back stopped hurting so much that i barely feel some kind of pressure , but now it's again like so bad.. No approaching as i said , no new people to meet except online (that suck because it makes you somekind of keyboard jockey , and not a real man ... )
I know about pickup and i want to start doing some of that stuff , or at least something that is close to it. For now , my goal is JUST to start approaching people without this blocking feeling of my mind that i dont have 1% confidence , and mind block .. i know its because of the back but if it didn't hurt i am sure i would be way calm than i am with this pain.
So , do you have any advices over those things? They are crucial for me to start opening up to people and be more extroverted than right now, i know if i waste many years and stay like this without many people to know i will be another loner and loser , so it will get harder... Now im feeling it's the right time to get my life in order and this nonsence to end so it can be a whole new life!
Very long writing but i really needed to share this. Hope you can understand somehow. After this topic maybe i wont post new one for quite some time. I need to fix this problems soon or at least start and hopefully i can recover in time this year for the job and mostly for myself to be feeling normal and without that kind of problems.
But here is what my problems are right now (im thinking of the biggest in my mind right now) :
1.Maybe the social anxiety - when im alone or with my parents at home im confident and most of the time relaxed and calm , and even with people i talk much time with. But with completely strangers.... it's like mission impossible to me if it's on the street or park or whatever ....
2.I have back problems and i can't go to gym , not to mention i can't concentrate normally because of the pain all my mind is on it and it's like my mind blocks when i try to meet a person (and i just pass them by with nothing )....
Today i was confident enough , i though it is a really sunny and cool day i get up earlier ive been motivating myself with videos and all kind of stuff like that , it was pretty ok till i go out and when some time (5-10 or more minutes pass) the back starts to hurting and it's the nightmare repeating again... No approaching people , no overcoming social anxiety ( other thing is im going alone without any people by my side) , why is it like it? When i was at work and i took my pills and meds the back stopped hurting so much that i barely feel some kind of pressure , but now it's again like so bad.. No approaching as i said , no new people to meet except online (that suck because it makes you somekind of keyboard jockey , and not a real man ... )
I know about pickup and i want to start doing some of that stuff , or at least something that is close to it. For now , my goal is JUST to start approaching people without this blocking feeling of my mind that i dont have 1% confidence , and mind block .. i know its because of the back but if it didn't hurt i am sure i would be way calm than i am with this pain.
So , do you have any advices over those things? They are crucial for me to start opening up to people and be more extroverted than right now, i know if i waste many years and stay like this without many people to know i will be another loner and loser , so it will get harder... Now im feeling it's the right time to get my life in order and this nonsence to end so it can be a whole new life!
Very long writing but i really needed to share this. Hope you can understand somehow. After this topic maybe i wont post new one for quite some time. I need to fix this problems soon or at least start and hopefully i can recover in time this year for the job and mostly for myself to be feeling normal and without that kind of problems.