I wasn't really sure where to post this as to me it doesn't really fit into the "relationships" section.
For some years now my sister has been having a relationship with a married man. I was the first person in the family that she told. I can't say I was happy with that because it put me in an awkward position with my parents and I was having to hide things and lie. I was also going through pretty bad things in my personal life and really could have done without the baggage. So inevitably maybe after quite a while I cracked and told my mum, my dad now knows too. There position is "well I think she's stupid but...". I seem to be the only one that thinks that it's wrong. I completely don't agree with it. I hate her attitude, I hate that she faults it. It's really caused a massive rift in our relationship. On a day to day basis I can talk to her but if it comes up I can feel myself getting tense and I just want the subject changed as soon as possible. It's made me look at her in a totally different way. It also makes me angry that my parents are so blase about it.
It's also in my opinion not had a great impact on her life. She was fired from the job she met him at (which may or may not be related). She had to move out from sharing with a friend because of the strain of it. She can't really afford to live alone so is struggling and always at our parents for cash.
In many ways she's one of those girls that just loses all sense over men. I mean its been years and clearly he isn't going to leave his wife so why can't she move on and have a real relationship? Yes she loves him but she can't be a mistress forever...
I'm also tired of being made to be in the middle. It was the same when she got together with a uni friend. I was the only one that knew they were a couple so my parents would happily let them share at bed at home (as they were both girls) while my boyfriend was banned. My dad still knows nothing about that.
My point is should I be accepting this? As her choice and what makes her happy (thats questionable though). Am I just being a cow not wanting to hear about it. My mother seems to think I'm jealous. NO! I mean that hurt. I just think she deserves not to share a man and yes call me old fashioned but I just think cheating and affairs are wrong.
For some years now my sister has been having a relationship with a married man. I was the first person in the family that she told. I can't say I was happy with that because it put me in an awkward position with my parents and I was having to hide things and lie. I was also going through pretty bad things in my personal life and really could have done without the baggage. So inevitably maybe after quite a while I cracked and told my mum, my dad now knows too. There position is "well I think she's stupid but...". I seem to be the only one that thinks that it's wrong. I completely don't agree with it. I hate her attitude, I hate that she faults it. It's really caused a massive rift in our relationship. On a day to day basis I can talk to her but if it comes up I can feel myself getting tense and I just want the subject changed as soon as possible. It's made me look at her in a totally different way. It also makes me angry that my parents are so blase about it.
It's also in my opinion not had a great impact on her life. She was fired from the job she met him at (which may or may not be related). She had to move out from sharing with a friend because of the strain of it. She can't really afford to live alone so is struggling and always at our parents for cash.
In many ways she's one of those girls that just loses all sense over men. I mean its been years and clearly he isn't going to leave his wife so why can't she move on and have a real relationship? Yes she loves him but she can't be a mistress forever...
I'm also tired of being made to be in the middle. It was the same when she got together with a uni friend. I was the only one that knew they were a couple so my parents would happily let them share at bed at home (as they were both girls) while my boyfriend was banned. My dad still knows nothing about that.
My point is should I be accepting this? As her choice and what makes her happy (thats questionable though). Am I just being a cow not wanting to hear about it. My mother seems to think I'm jealous. NO! I mean that hurt. I just think she deserves not to share a man and yes call me old fashioned but I just think cheating and affairs are wrong.