anonymous sexual encounters......

[cheaptrickfan]

There are reasons for murder, rape, pedophilia etc (i know they're more extreme acts), but no reason can make any of them right, cheating included.

I agree. I look at it as the difference between an explanation and an excuse. Everything has some sort of explanation, but explanations aren't excuses.

 

[DakotaDesert]

I've got to agree with punisher and cheaptrickfan.

I agree with all of you. As I said above, cheating is bad and should not happen at all. Yes, it hurts, it happened to me once, so I know what you are talking about. But we will not change people behavior. The cheaters will not stop cheating. And there are so many, it makes me try to understand why it happens because I do not want to give up and stop to believe in the human being.

 

[scott69]

Does anyone else have casual anonymous sex with strangers and afterwards fell extreme guilt from it? I'm not defending or condoning this behavior but if it weren't for Craigslist I would never have sex.....
Most of the men I have sex with lead a double life and are married with kids.

Don't feel guilty. You are doing nothing wrong. You hurt nobody.

I disagree. Being The Other Person participates directly in an act that does hurt someone: the wife. Yes, these husbands are the ones who are betraying their wives, and the Other Person has no allegiance to a stranger's wife, but this doesn't absolve them of some blame. Our actions do affect people even when we don't intend them to.

I would never want to be party to an act of deception like that. I'd like to think that if I fell in love with a married man, and he'd reciprocated it, that he wouldn't cheapen it by hiding it or by hurting his wife and family. Too many people can get hurt.

Who said anything about love? I have no feelings of love towards these married men.... I'm just looking to "get off" with them.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Who said anything about love? I have no feelings of love towards these married men.... I'm just looking to "get off" with them.

Whether or not you feel love for them or are just there for sex, it doesn't change the fact that there's deception and pain involved. I was addressing the other poster's claim that no one gets hurt in a scenario like this.

 

[h i]

ive posted several advertisements on craigslist for sex and relationships. ive had some weird replies, mostly spam for marketing reasons. i want to be able to do it, but i cant. ive never, ever, met anyone from online. im just to needy, for a NSA to work... ill talk on a messenger like AIM or through yahoo emails. people like me, and i find that they have children, or are married, and i just cant do it. we say our goodbyes and move on.

 

[leftykmonahan]

"Does anyone else have casual anonymous sex with strangers and afterwards fell extreme guilt from it? I'm not defending or condoning this behavior but if it weren't for Craigslist I would never have sex.....
Most of the men I have sex with lead a double life and are married with kids. "

I chose to give those type of encounters up several months back, as they left me feeling rather worthless and horribly repulsive. Being with guys who only want to get off and then kick me out.

 

[Lawliet]

I was in a position to do it, not to be a virgin anymore but then I felt pretty lame so I ended up just ignoring her. She ended up having a threesome with her friend and one of the guys I went partying with. I see her around campus and I feel sorry for her because I know that guy doesn't even remember her.

 

[BabyDoll]

I think it's wrong to have casual sex because
it's like giving your body away without natural
affection.Actually thats what it is.
I want to love the man I'm with. It's easy to use
others for sex,so easy in fact it takes no skill at all!
I have done it,but end up feeling even worse.
I am looking for a companion to share my life with
and my sexuality,not a life long stream of casual
lovers or sex addicts.

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I love sex,but I don't want my future boyfriend
to think I'm a loose tramp or that I've had so
many men that he's not any different.
Trust is a very delicate thing,why start off on
the wrong foot?
It's hard to make friends with other women
today because so many of them think it's ok
to sleep around and have all the sex they want.
I don't think it's good or healthy,but I do get
tempted like any normal healthy red blooded
woman would,but I also know it's wrong and
leads to more sadness & lonliness because sex
partners are just that,they are only in it for the
sex not companionship and thats lonliness.
sex is great,but who wants to stay in bed all day
and who can?

 

[viviana]

hey there i am new, and so i just found this

wanted to say yeah, the worse guilt fall over me after though. if you still around hopefully did you mean for real, real or just imagining it, envisioning?

Does anyone else have casual anonymous sex with strangers and afterwards fell extreme guilt from it? I'm not defending or condoning this behavior but if it weren't for Craigslist I would never have sex.....
Most of the men I have sex with lead a double life and are married with kids.

 

[Wyrm]

well jacking off to porn can create a mindset that woman are just sexual objects and nothing more, and I never, ever want to think like that. Women get enouh honeysuckle already I don't need to add to it by looking at them like objects. I do my best to respect women in all cases

I don't mean to sound rude, but I think that life is too short for that mindset. Us men are turned on by visual stimuli (ie nude women). It's how mother nature made us. It's part of our genetic programming, and no artificially constructed set of morals is going to change how our brains are hardwired.

I respect women, but I also respect myself as a man. As a man, it's just in my nature to be turned on by seeing nude women. I don't feel even remotely ashamed of it, regardless of what ultra-feminists say about it. Telling men that it's wrong to enjoy what they are programmed to be aroused by will at all not stop sex slave trafficking, rape, or sexual molestation, but will actually increase these problems.

Edit: I removed some references to religion, just in case