Anyone else out there so single they just want to scream???

[Oldyoung]

I have friends in relationships. Some are doing great together, some not so well.

I do envy the former though. But no screaming as of yet.

 

[Skid Row 89]

I google searched forever alone and my picture appeared

 

[SDO909]

I feel so lonely. I 'm 29 and never had a girlfriend. I suffer from lack of confidence.

I feel like with every passing day it gets more difficult to find one. Now I'm anxious I'll be lonely for the rest if my life.

In the past year I moved out of my parents house. I took the decision partly because my work situation improved and partly because I wanted to feel me like a man and be independent. I now feel more lonely than I did living with my mum and dad.

It's probably not a good emotion to have but I'm so envious of people walking around in couples !

 

[lonelyfairy]

I feel really alone, though I wouldn't scream, just silently cry. It makes me sad, but whining or crying about it won't change the situation. I'm not going to search for the love, it will come if it ever will and that's it. If it won't... Well, then I need to accept that too and live my life. I'm already ''whole'' and don't need a man for it.

 

[h3donist]

I've just come out of a marriage - well, march last year was the day I realised I had enough. Been single ever since, and had nobody before her to speak of.

Since then I've battled my emotions, loneliness, the need for human comfort, the fact that I'm, essentially, a virgin aged 35 (despite being married, there was no intimacy). The idea of forming another relationship scares me, yet my yearning just to share my life with another person is ever present. Catch 22?

I've decided that the only way for me to move forward is to love myself and live a rich and as full life as possible. Once I have my money from the sale of our marital home I will travel, live in different places, take part in as many social activities as I can. I never know what each day will bring so I have to keep positive and ensure I am happy before I can even hope to be able to share my life with another person.

"Life engenders life. Energy creates energy. It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich" - Sarah Bernhardt

As long as I am happy living a full life as I can then opportunities for love will come my way eventually, and until then I'm not going to waste a second. I join social groups to do activities I never thought I'd try, I spend time with family and friends, I write, travel and work a job I enjoy. Who knows who I'll meet or where I'll wind up.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Yeah, I'm definitely so single I could scream. I'm tired of falling asleep holding my pillow. But I'm to tell myself that I got myself into this mess by not being confident and interesting and working on myself when I should have been. I know I'm not the best version of me that I could possibly be. I'm trying to believe that if I improve enough, then maybe one day someone will see that I am worth their while.

 

[coffeeaddict]

I feel lonely and want someone for valentine's day... at least once. I've never had that. But perhaps it's better not to rather than have it and not last past that day.

 

[Paraiyar]

I feel lonely and want someone for valentine's day... at least once. I've never had that. But perhaps it's better not to rather than have it and not last past that day.

I know how that feels and it doesn't help that Valentines Day is also my birthday.

 

[Guy_In_The_Corner_]

Yep, I'm very single and still love the same person I loved two years ago. They're in their second relationship since me, and I haven't been in one. I feel pretty honeysuckle about it most of the time, and pretty lonely in general.

 

[Naizo]

Absolutely. I have screamed. Alot. Sometimes my friends say I have issues.

 

[Hauntyoueveryday]

I've gotten used to being alone.

 

[Serephina]

I feel like I should feel this way,but I don't. I was upset when I split up with my ex and he has probably moved on and I felt that the whole relationship just felt like one big lie, I was hurt and angry. I basically kept myself in my house and didn't want to even go out. Now i'm socialising,started a college course in something I really want to do,lost a lot of weight and really enjoying my life once again,to the point that everyone around me says I seem like a completely different person. I am working on myself and enjoying life once again. I think I would be too worried about changing again if I got involved with someone.

 

[whimsicalspirit]

I'm single, but not in that typical, relationship, kind of way.

I have no friends right now. I already said my peace about it though. Still, sure wish I had some, but with all of these smart phones...

 

[MentatsGhoul]

I think being single itself isn't the main issue. Don't get me wrong, having a loving girlfriend is one of the things I want the most in this world, if not the one thing I miss the most. But ultimately, my lack of any sex life or friends is a more pressing concern. If I had those, I think I could live with being single, though, being in a relationship would, if not solve, then greatly reduce my problems in those two areas as well.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

I think being single itself isn't the main issue. Don't get me wrong, having a loving girlfriend is one of the things I want the most in this world, if not the one thing I miss the most. But ultimately, my lack of any sex life or friends is a more pressing concern. If I had those, I think I could live with being single, though, being in a relationship would, if not solve, then greatly reduce my problems in those two areas as well.

Yeah, I think this is what kinda depresses me about my "singledom."

There's being "single" because you want to be single, and you're just enjoying being single. Or because you've left a relationship recently and don't want one right now.

Then there's being single involuntarily because you're unlucky/too busy/can't find someone you really like who is also single. I feel like I've been in this category for years and it's maddening.

Every time I go to a party/club/social gathering and no matter how well I flirt or get on with people, I have that thought in the back of my mind of "You're not going to get a kiss tonight, you're not going to sleep with anyone. You never do."

I think in the last five solid years there are only two measly times I've thought "You know, I think I really like this person and would actually like to make love to them." And in both cases nothing happened anyway.

Even if I go on dates it's usually a case of sitting there thinking "Wow, I meet girls who are totally immature, wtf?" rather than "OMG, I might actually have something special here." I just don't understand how other people bounce between so many relationships, unless they just don't give a **** about who they're going out with?

 

[kamya]

I just don't understand how other people bounce between so many relationships, unless they just don't give a **** about who they're going out with?

If that really is the case then it just makes their eventual rejection that much worse.

 

[Everydaystruggle33]

Ive been rejected more times than I can count online dating sites do nothing for me other then confirm that attempting to find love is just an excercise in futility.

 

[Dawn Jellyfish]

Yeah, kind of.
I'm kind of accepting of it though.
Mainly because, even if I could get dates, I have a feeling they wouldn't really be what I want or need.
I don't think that at this point I could be attracted to someone who didn't show interest in me first, since I've kind of... grown out of having infatuation for people. I've not since met someone who has really drawn me in like that, since, certain personality traits are too much of a turn-off for me now.

I'd also need someone who is just... really, really open, and who doesn't demand more than they allow to be expected of them (which is my main complaint of any interpersonal relationship, even friendships, is that people don't care, or expect too much without being willing to give in turn... and it makes me feel the efforts I could go through to win their approval just aren't worth it).

Basically, I'll lower any of my standards down to the ground just for the sake of experimenting, but I just can't do something if it's one-sided (and even if they're willing, unless they put effort into it... I don't like it... one of the struggles I've had making other friends who are just as lonely as I am is none of them have the drive to do anything when given the chance, which I find hard to understand).

I went through a time where I wanted to date just to get the experience and I still couldn't get the chance, and now I feel that maybe dating just isn't for me... like, it just seems way too formal and full of expectations I simply don't have enough experience to fulfill.

Spending time, resources, and energy on other people might pay off in the future, but spending them on myself will always pay off right now.

So, yeah. It sucks because relationships are the most important thing for me, and something I've craved my whole life, but I really don't see it happening. If I could live in a world completely devoid of humans, I could perhaps find meaning in a lonely existence, but otherwise, I think it's going to be a game of pretend that it's something I'm fine with.

 

[anidealofhope]

Just been going through this thread for a good hour and wow, it's gotten to me. I think people sometimes think that we're single because we choose to be, and while some definitely feel that being single is the better alternative (which I think you should take pride in because you're happy with yourself), it's just not the reality for everyone. And yeah, I do scream. I cry. I hug a pillow. I eat cookie dough ice cream. And yeah, it helps...sometimes. But sometimes it just brings to the forefront that you've never ever had that relationship. That love. I think that's what people want more, well at least for me, I would prefer a companion and someone who cares than just a sexual partner. Seeing all your friends happily in relationships, always being the third wheel freaking sucks. So yeah, even though I'm sixteen and I've got my whole life ahead of me, I can definitely say right now...I'm going:

Aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

 

[ardour]

Just been going through this thread for a good hour and wow, it's gotten to me. I think people sometimes think that we're single because we choose to be, and while some definitely feel that being single is the better alternative (which I think you should take pride in because you're happy with yourself), it's just not the reality for everyone. And yeah, I do scream. I cry. I hug a pillow. I eat cookie dough ice cream. And yeah, it helps...sometimes. But sometimes it just brings to the forefront that you've never ever had that relationship. That love. I think that's what people want more, well at least for me, I would prefer a companion and someone who cares than just a sexual partner. Seeing all your friends happily in relationships, always being the third wheel freaking sucks. So yeah, even though I'm sixteen and I've got my whole life ahead of me, I can definitely say right now...I'm going:

Aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

I'm going to sound really condescending here. At your age relationships rarely last and result in a lot of baggage. You aren't missing out on anything, unless you consider something that won't last worth emotionally investing in.