Forget social banter, and assumptions. Bottom-line, this boils down to caring what people think the conventional way vs. living as yourself without wounds. Being and appearing cool vs. living as a happy cucumber. All patched up or stuffing it down.
Polar opposites behave very similar. Always. That's the ultimate irony of the world. One whom is a quote on quote, health nut, more times than not stuffs down their emotions instead of food. And happy nut, vice versa. Morbidly Obese.
Every single relationship should be approached with an open mind otherwise it is not a relationship. It is co-dependency, ironically. Contrary to the "popular" belief that the exact opposite is more true. Loving traits are flourished, not muscular and diet. To each their own.
You attract naïve when you are. You attract the mature when you are, mature. Narrow is so narrow it has to convince and remind itself that it is not "stupid" and accepted. Seen, shown, it's existence. So much so, it doesn't have an authentic one of their own.
Standards shall and never will be, standards. It's an oxymoron that falls upon itself. It will be avoidance of love, on the soul level. Not everyone is ready for love past looks. It is what it is.
Enter with baggage, without, baggage. Haha. Fat Love proverb perhaps?
Be careful not to replace your self-worth with the wrong abundance. Your mirror and body can only do so much, all the same. "Lighter" people.