It's actaully more simple than you think to obtain it.
It just takes a little practice and awareness.
You already intuitively know how to this. You did and still do it in other aspects of your life.
Let go....or simply drop it.
I belive at some level you know you're not your emotions or your thoughts.
You have thoughts and emotions. Once you are aware of this...it get easier to not react/over react to your emotions.
Our thoughts also drives our emotions. You can become more aware of this if you allow yourself to observe yourself.
Do a simple excersize of your mind. Retrive a thought from your brain/mind...
The eaiest ones for this excersize are turamatic, painful, or very sad memories that you have.
Observe...your thoughts..then observe the emotions the comes after the thoughts.
Obverse your breathing, your feeling while holding this thought.
Observe now you might react to your feelings...
This technique is call diving righting to the pain or bursting the bubble....
Simply allow yourself to let go...don't fight it , don't resist it, don't figure it out.
Evnetaully you'll go right through it and into peace or an ocean of love.
Some people use meditation...
Simply sit still and focus on an object in front of you.
Observe the endless parades of thought...just oberseve it. Don't aynalize it, don't figure it out.
Just let all of the thoughts go through as if your watching a parade...
Eventaully your mind will come to a still...
For a brift moment...you'll notice a state of total blizt or grace
The more you practice doing this...the longer you'll be able to obtain and stay in that state of being.
Then it just a matter of practicing that while you're inneracting with your friends or wondering about them.
Or you cam simple do this simple excersize...
Pick up an object...(keys or whatever).
Roll it around in your hand...feeling the object. Look at it.
Then squeeze it...harder as hard as you can. (notice the tensions in your body when you're holding on to this object)
Now simply drop the object on the floor (release/let go)..notice there's tension in your body.
This happens with our emotions...the same principle applies.
By doing this excersize...you're simply training yourself . You can physically see it.
You know it's as simple as just droping it.
You just make a decision to drop your emotions.
I hope that helps.
It helped me. It was so simple it blew my mind.
I bascailly live my days like this, now. I'm peaceful, easy going, I make new friends. i don't trip too hard if some poeple don't call me all the time.
Siumpy becuase being a state of peace...I'm more approachable and in a friendly state of being.
Yy focus is better. I perform better at work or whatever else I want to do or need to do becuase I'm in a peaceful state. I'm not wasting my energy worrying
or reliving pains. It's call being and living life in the moment...not in my head.
I already intuitively knew how to do this..without going through the mechanics of how my mind works. mmmm..but i had to get to know myself (know thyself).lol
When play my guitar and improvise....I'm in a state of grace...but the thing about it is...sometimes i play very fast.
I don't think too much or analize it. i just let the music flow through me or come through me.
See...if i think while I'm improvising...it's too fucken late. I'll miss a beat or lose rythem..Then I'll freaken try to figure it out.
Which fucks me up even more or lose rythem and play more freaken sour notes
You also intuitutively know how to do this..whatever your thing is in life that you enjoy and love doing.