Cindy Lu's amazing Four Man Plan!

[Alonewith2cats]

I just thought I'd throw this out to the single women on this site.

http://thefourmanplan.com/

The 75 minute video is free and the book will cost you a small fee. This is about dating 4 men at a time. You can pick them up on the internet or wherever else you may meet them and Cindy Lu makes it easy. It seems like a crazy idea but please reserve judgement until you have watched the 75 minute presentation which I know you have time to do because you have time to hang out here. Plus the presentation is fun and entertaining.

 

[Peaches]

that is similar to circular dating, made popular by Rori Raye - it makes sense to me, unless you really meet somebody special who wants to commit, to avoid clutching to one person or misunderstanding the signs because one feels lonely or unattractive.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

If this were about dating four girls, it would be looked down upon. As a guy, I don't want to compete with three other guys. It's sick.

 

[CM Vader]

If this were about dating four girls, it would be looked down upon. As a guy, I don't want to compete with three other guys. It's sick.

Spot on.

That's what women do anyway though.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

They might do it, but they shouldn't look down on guys who do it, too.

This post is not going to go over well, but that's how men and women both see this happening. IMO, ONE man should date ONE woman.

 

[Felix]

Does this end in a sort of "harem"? or the guys have battle each other to get the prize?

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

What pisses me off is the implications.

If a guy has four girlfriends, or four wives, it's not looked at well by society.

Then why should a woman have four steady boyfriends?

Seriously, if I give my heart and soul to a woman, I want her to give it to me...and only me. Not three other guys. The implications are that of a porn star, and I don't want to "share" my girlfriend.

The only time it would work is in an open relationship, but don't expect me, or most guys, to be attracted to that. Especially if we want marriage and kids.

 

[Locke]

So the women are attacked for this thread (even though only 2 have posted so far), and they'll attack the guys back, and it'll all end up being a pointless unfun gender fight.

Just.......why?

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Nevermind, I've said my piece. This just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

 

[theglasscell]

This just shows women can be pigs just like men when it comes to dating.

If you're that desperate for validation I guess this is a good technique.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Oh boy....

 

[Felix]

*bomb keeps ticking*

 

[Peaches]

mmm, I hadn't seen the video, circular dating is NOT about having 4 boyfriends, that would be sick. It is about maintaining superficial relationships (casual dating) until she finds ONE guy that is good, and not overcommit to someone she has just met and barely knows. Many women are guilty of picking children's names and imagining a life together after just a few dates, I think rori raye was writing to them.

 

[theglasscell]

As long as all four of these guys are getting laid it's fine with me. That's a lot of dick to handle all at once though.

 

[VanillaCreme]

This just shows women can be pigs just like men when it comes to dating.

If you're that desperate for validation I guess this is a good technique.

That's what I thought. Also, how ridiculous it is. I hope people have enough sense not to buy into it.

 

[Limlim]

Well believe it or not, this is how dating used to be back in the day. You actually went out with several potential prospects at once before deciding to go steady with one of them.

 

[theglasscell]

I think that was before most people had sex on the first date though. It's kind of different now. People are in a rush.

 

[Felix]

I remember there used to be a MTV reality show pretty much like this... And several others. So this idea is certainly not original...

 

[Locke]

I remember there used to be a MTV reality show pretty much like this... And several others. So this idea is certainly not original...

Aren't there still shows like that, like The Bachelorette or something? I think I saw a commercial for it the other day.

 

[Alonewith2cats]

I can tell by the responses here that this has been completely misunderstood. The idea is to go out, have fun, enjoy oneself, get to know a variety of people and not get stuck on any one person until the right one comes along. When the right one comes along then the four man plan is dropped and it becomes one on one. It is not about sleeping around and it's not about dishonesty. Cindy Lu who wrote the four man plan tells women to tell the men upfront that they are dating multiple men so there is nothing to hide. When one of these men asks the woman to see him exclusively and she feels the same way the four man plan is dropped. It should be a relief to man that someone he just met, a stranger who he only had one date with is not waiting for his phone call or worse obsessing over him, she's keeping her options open for good reason. And aren't men naturally competitive? I'm not talking about games at all but who would a man rather go for? The woman who after one date, can't stop thinking about him, is already naming his children and waiting for him to call her or someone who is living her life, having fun, not taking things too seriously, she adores men, that's why she dates many but simply not allowing herself to get tied down until the right one comes along and wins her over. There is in fact a mathematical formula. Let me just look it up and I'll post it.

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I found it.

4(m)p=u+1
Four times men to the power of The Plan, becomes you plus another.