M_also_lonely said:
And so an inferiority complex arises that causes false beliefs conquer you. When you find that you have done a lot for making others happy, and nobody is there to listen to what you want to say, you start believing that helping selflessly has no meaning.
M_also_lonely said:
So you start to find, how actually can get you a friend. So you look around and find a person who has a lot of friends. You see that he is a smart person, attractive and fun loving. So you try to become like thaat so that you may make friends and share your emotions. But then you find that to be like that, you already need to be like that.
That's not really true, exactly.
Intelligence is earned. It's something you must earn through study and interest in the world. Despite how the world sees it as something you're born with, they are wrong - it factually can't work that way. Knowledge doesn't come through magical revelations, it comes through learning.
Attractiveness is something that is entirely subjective, as Serephina pointed out. Some people like one thing and others like something else.
Fun-Loving is something everyone has - everyone loves to have fun. More importantly, everyone loves to have fun in different ways, so again it is subjective.
So no, you don't have to already be like that, exactly. People ARE already like that, except for being smart. They have to earn that. Otherwise it's just about finding the right person who matches you. Finding the right pieces to finish the puzzle. Finding the people who like the way you look and likes the way you have fun.
M_also_lonely said:
Like, why would a customer choose a new product when he is already satisfied with older one? So you should have something that nobody else has....Or atleast that can make people happy. But to make people happy, you need to be happy first. But you are making them happy because you want to be happy. This cycle goes on and on...
It is a cycle, yeah... but one you kind of have to force your way out of. A cycle you have to break with a lot of courage and a lot of hard work and perseverance.
It is hard, yeah. And just being happy isn't exactly the right way to put it. You don't need to be happy to be with someone. You just need to be happy with yourself, at least a little bit. More accurately, you really just need to know yourself, your real self. And not be clouded by faulty judgement, especially when it comes from others. Happiness comes later, and there are different kinds of happiness.
You don't need to have a smile on every minute to find others who like you for who you are. A good smile means nothing if it is not meant. You just need to know how to smile and just do it occasionally, and how to enjoy a good moment without thinking about all the negative things. Mostly, you just need to know that those negative things can't keep you down forever, and that you will do your best to enjoy life and be the person who you want to become. That is what really matters.
It's hard to overlook a lot of rejection. It's hard to see what is really there. It's hard to see past all the illusions, all the deception, and all the confusion. But the most important thing is just that you try, and you pick yourself up again and again when you fall down. Never stay down.