lonelypanda
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Despicable Me said:Exactly. I completely agree. It's the same sort of stuff I've seen, too. So many parents just don't even seem to care at all. I only assume it's because they've got major issues at home or work, but that's just me dreaming up excuses for them and I probably shouldn't do that.
I wasn't always like I am now, though. I never stood up for myself back when I was in school. I really just didn't care about anything and I had tons of emotional issues, too.
Today I've got no issues with standing up for myself or fighting anyone. Though, these days I'm actually the "kill them with kindness" kind of guy. From my experience people seem to respond better to that. That doesn't work so well online when people can't hear my tone and I can't read their expressions. Luckily there's really not many serious issues you can run into online, so long as you can ignore all the trolling everywhere. But when the niceness doesn't work, I can get pretty cruel. The nice words turn themselves into sharp daggers. Luckily it rarely ever goes that far. I can physically fight rather well, too, despite appearances, but it's never gotten that far before.
When people are nasty now a days I ignore them, people like that are irrelevant. They are extras, they don't deserve a spot in my thoughts good or bad. I don't even have the energy to waste thoughts on useless people. Lol ain't nobody got time for that.
ardour said:Agree with this. So often I see parents in cafes or out in public indulge their children like they're royalty, act is if they can do no wrong, sit by idly while the little brats run rampart harassing other children and annoying adults. It's usually upper middle class parents who don't seem to reprimand their children, or do so only half-heartedly in front of others.
I have a theory about this: it isn't necessarily negligent parenting, they want their children to grow up self-centered under the conception it will make them more likely to be successful (ie. ruthless) as adults, and help carry on the family name. Bullying, merciless teasing, general nastiness towards unpopular kids is all fine as it prefigures the kind of class hierarchies the parents believe in.
I see lots of different people neglecting to put an effort in teaching children boundaries and manners. It's sad really. I can't even count how many times people have said my daughter is so well mannered, but really that shouldn't be shocking. That should be the norm !!! When I took her trick or treating i barely hear any kids saying Thank you. I would got a smack upside the head if I didn't use manners, this generation is so self-absorbed. It's all me me me me.
SofiasMami said:I agree with this totally. I had an eye-opening experience at a playground a few years ago. I was watching my daughter play and a young kid went up to a man nearby who was probably his dad and said something like "Johnny is being mean to Billy and making him cry". And what did dad say? Paraphrasing here - "Don't help Billy, he needs to learn to toughen up and take it."
It's a nasty world out there and even if you're trying to teach your own kids how to behave in a civilized fashion, there are a TON of other parents who just don't give a honeysuckle.
And while I'm here, I'll just say there are a whole lot of moms - adult women - who never grew up past the "mean girls" stage and are more than willing to bully and be passive aggressive to other adults - no doubt passing those lovely traits down to their own kids in the process.
Sorry, you just hit a nerve here
-Teresa
Oh man I could rant for days about this kind of stuff. I have so many examples too, like at cornmaze there was a kiddy train, a line had formed. When the train pulled up every kid just ran out of line and started pushing on. I was 2nd in line and my little did get a spot on the train, but the kid infront of us who was first didn't and started crying because everyone budged him. Wasn't even my kid and I was so mad that I said out loud how rude all these people are and went on a rant about how nobody cares to teach their kids basic manners and social etiquette. The funny thing is I reminded squish to wait her turn when the train pulled up because there was no staff there. Apparantly it's needed though because people are dicks these days ! She looked back at me when all the kids just ran, I just picked her up and put her in next to another little girl. Anytime I'm getting on or off a bus and someone shoves by I always think those people are a product of those types of parents.
TheSkaFish said:I feel bad about killing insects and the like, as well. In fact, when I see them in the house, I try to catch them and toss them outside. In the cold months, I've been just leaving them alone entirely. I saw a spider inside yesterday but figured it was too cold for it outside, so I just left it be. I don't blame insects or similar creatures either. I just get irritated at the bites sometimes.
I knew it's only the female mosquitoes that bite, but I thought that's just what they ate. I didn't know that they mostly eat nectar. I learned something new today
I'm the same way.... except that I love insects! Well all except bed bugs and mosquitos. My absolute fav is spiders !!! I love them so much, I have never killed a spider or thrown it out of my house, I let them stay and name them. I only ever killed one spider by accident and he was my bathroom spider, I saw him in there all the time. I named him Herbert and one day I was brushing my teeth and then I used mouthwash and spit it out. He was in the sink !!!! I gave him a funeral complete with his own headstone. RIP.
TheSkaFish said:It's because you're using the backwards slash, like this: [\quote]
Use the forward slash, the one on the same key as the question mark. That's the one you want, like this:
There ya go
Omg thankyou! Haha such a simple solution too.
TheSkaFish said:Eh, I don't know if I agree with this. I don't think our personalities are set from age 5 onwards. Lots of things can change a person's personality for better or for worse. I think personalities are just collections of habits, and we learn to believe these collections of habits are who we really are. I do believe it's changeable though. It might be difficult at first, like any new habit. But I do believe a person can change their personality at least to some level.
Yeah everyone has their own idea about it, it just rung true for me. I swear personality is genetics too. People think im crazy for thinking that but I never knew my dad but when I met him as an adult i found out I am just like him. My interests, how I am, how I think.... eerily like him. I noticed with my kid she has personality traits of her dad. He was whiny and gave up so easy on everything, she's the same way. She tries once and has a pity party when she doesnt get it in one try. Hahah very hard kid to motivate, and also very hard for me to relate to because I'm so stubborn. If i set my mind to something it's as good as done.
TheSkaFish said:Oh man. I was the same way as your daughter when I was a kid, only I was a guy so that probably made it worse for me. I was a mousy, nice, and sweet person, not the "stand up for yourself" kind of person at all. I only started thinking that way later, when I realized that I didn't want to be treated that way anymore.
I hope things can get better for your daughter and that she can learn to stand up for herself, but I hope that she can do so without sacrificing her sweet side. I hope that the other kids don't make her turn out bitter and jaded. I hope she can find the balance between confidence and friendliness.
That gives me hope, I just hope she isn't one of those girls that let's men mistreat her because she's too nice to stand up for herself. My biggest thing is I just want her to be happy and not struggle the way i have in life.