It's silly because I was rejected by the person that was supposed to love and honor me until we died. It's silly because I suffered through 8 years of emotional abuse, physical abuse AND rejection and I got over it. Do you honestly believe that someone telling you that you are nothing and you are worthless isn't rejection? And I've been rejected by people other than my husband too.
And no, I have no issue with most men, just the ones that blame others and try to make their situation so much worse because us evil womens couldn't possibly understand anything that a precious man might endure. Fix your issues ( and that goes for women too, EVERYONE has issues), get rid of the negativity and treat women like they are people, not something to win/trick and maybe you'll have better luck.
Either you're intentionally misreading my posts, or you're skipping over what I said entirely. I am saying it is silly that you are telling people they shouldn't feel a certain way when you haven't gone through the same stuff they have. I mentioned nothing about anything that you went through being silly.
Again, you don't know what I've been through and haven't been through it yourself. So to downplay my situation is very condescending on your part. I am actively trying to fix my issues. I have been for over a decade now since I got into personal development. Maybe you should work on your issues and your anger first before telling others to fix theirs. All my threads here have been positive and about improving yourself. It's you and others who have brought the negativity into this thread when you didn't like some of the things I said.
That's twice now, you've associated a differing, honest opinion with personal attacks.
I wouldn't want to be misconstrued as doing the same, so I'll try to chose my words carefully. She's been in relationships and has children. I've been in several and have children. You may have videos and be knowledgeable and insightful in your postings, it's not bad advice at all, but I'd like to suggest that when we talk about mentality and approach, maybe me, her, anyone who actually has been in several relationships, or has had children, maybe we actually know what we're talking about.
We're also probably not as angry as you think we are. That's really just an assumption.
Your advice is good, but your presentation does tend to lend towards a dehumanization of women. I don't feel it's an accurate representation of reality. Devil's advocate, you're addressing yourself to a wide base, but you're kind of falling in the same trap as I reproach most media of being guilty of; focusing on the divide between men and women. I think that's an error.
Men and women have much more similarities than disimilarities.
Well, considering you're one of the people who personally attacked me, I'll take what you say with a grain of salt. Not sure how calling me someone who doesn't care about negatively impacting people, only cares about getting clicks for money, a snake oil salesman, and a chauvinist are not personal attacks. What do you consider a personal attack if that isn't one? What we were disagreeing in this thread wasn't about relationships.
I am not trying to divide men and women. I think the problem is, people are just too sensitive these days. Everything is considered sexism even when there's nothing there. When everything is labeled as sexist or chauvinistic, then it sort of just loses meaning. Honestly, how I get labeled chauvinistic for making a fish analogy and a woman hater because I made an observation that men go through crueler rejections than women is beyond me. If I say that more women have to deal with the dangers of rape than men, would someone be right in saying I thought all men were evil and was a man hater? Would someone come up and say, "That's not true! I know plenty of men who have been raped! You must hate men!" Now I bet someone is going to quote my post and say that they are appalled I am comparing my trivial dating life to rape. So before anyone does that, that's not what I'm doing at all.
Hmm I actually appreciate this thread, found it very respectfully written from a personal stance.
Heres my girl tips for any that care I can only vouch for women like myself.
Best place to meet and approach women like me would have to be when I'm in a friendly mood pursuing a hobby of some sort.
What is something a man could do that will push up his success rate? Say nothing about how I look, nothing at all. Unless its about the clothing because we are at a comic con or something lol
If I talk to you, offer to buy me something, I don't care what it is, could be a keyring just make me see you are serious about wanting to get to know me. Proof is in the purchase lads!
If someone is rude to you during rejection, be stoic, walk away, so your chances with other women will go up rather than down.
Awh and @WillPower I don’t see many posts from you, but I enjoy ones I do see so I hope you wont get discouraged.
Really? You wouldn't like it if a guy complimented your looks? Is it cause you get it so much and all guys do that you don't think it comes across as sincere? Cause that's the first time I've heard that. I thought all women enjoyed being complimented on their looks as long as it was respectfully done.
I do enjoy going to anime conventions. As far as approaching women there though, I have found the girl/guy ratio there is really bad. The girls who are there in costume are really hot though, but there are too many thirsty guys there that are competing for those girls, that the odds are really against you.
And thanks . I will try to stick around, but honestly, if every thread I make ends up like the other two, I probably won't stick around much longer. There are certainly some very cool people on this forum, but there seems to also be a certain group of people who don't want me here. It's funny that even on a loneliness forum, there are cliques. But I guess that's how it is everywhere.