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I'm just curious to know what you have done to improve your looks for e.g if you were overweight, what did you do about it? Or if you had dull hair, what have you done with it? If you thought your dressing was bad, did you change your wardrobe, consulted an image consultant? How much did you spend on these things etc? How did it help in your social life? How long were you able to maintain the look? Did it change your self esteem?
 
Im alway been an out going person.
Excercising or getting new wordrob
wasnt a new comcept for me....
I ued to have long wavy rokcer
hair...lots of women loves my hair
and sexy body
After falling into a depression.
I simply stopped maintaining myself.
I didnt purchase new clothe for years.
I let my body get out of shape

I excercised. I got muscle tone.
I changed my woredrob.
I changed my hair style.

Its not as difficult as some people make it out to me. And its not a sin
to feel sexy and look good.

I get compliments from women.
More women turn thier heads
and firlt with me..
Women hitting on me or asking me out wasnt new eithe.
Ive alway been with beautiful women.

Today...a pretty chick was talking to
me Just being friendly or probing
Its not a big deal to me. But I aslo
know I attract her..
BTW...I have a pretty GF at the moment too.

I also work on my mental health..
Excercise my mind and spirit.
I read alot ...keep an openmind.

Mind,body and soul...kind of thing. .


I alway get the pretty girsl or women.
All my firends , co worker. Family. Sponsor and the whole **** town
knows it...

People tell me or ask me all the time..
" Yeah..yeah ...******. They u go again
with another pretty one"
Or
" your suck a dick...Thas all you hit on
are beaautiful wome" :p


Or
" How in the fresia did you manage to end up with her?"

My GF told me today... Since she
met me....she notice her pussy is wet
all the time. Shes like..." WTF?"
hahahaaaaa....
 
-working out frequently and consistently
-eating more to put on some pounds
-skin care (Clinique) and just decent general hygiene habits
-trying to smile and laugh more (seriously considering seeking Comedy in mp3 form)
-trying to get plenty of sleep when I can as opposed to staying up all night thinking about problems
-spending more on clothes (I've gotta admit, I am sort of crazy when it comes to buying new underwear. It seems like I buy at least 3 new pairs every other month)
 
I don't think I've done something special. I've basically been doing things that make me feel good and are healthy.
Working out is an important thing for me. Eating healthy, so no McDonalds, Wendys or KFC. I'm trying to sleep and keeping a positive attitude.
 
Not a great deal, to be honest. It was mostly mental.

I've worked out quite a bit due to a previous career, and I've taken to eating a lot healthier. Both of them, though, was because I felt they had multiple benefits of health and savings on health care. I once exchanged glasses for contacts and wouldn't mind getting LASIK done, but again, those are all things which I feel also have utiliarian benefit.
 
just started visiting nicer clothes shops and trying some stuff on, and working out a lot

i've definitely been complimented on my appearance since
 
Definitely my weight loss has affected me a ton. From that point on my self-esteem and confidence has sky-rocketed. From feeling completely hopeless I can finally sense hope for myself.
 
beans said:
I'm just curious to know what you have done to improve your looks for e.g if you were overweight, what did you do about it? Or if you had dull hair, what have you done with it? If you thought your dressing was bad, did you change your wardrobe, consulted an image consultant? How much did you spend on these things etc? How did it help in your social life? How long were you able to maintain the look? Did it change your self esteem?

1. Weight-loss
It started in 2006 when I finally decided that it was time to work on my weight and improve my health. For a long time, I struggled with my weight and I was constantly sweating, tired and could not wear clothing that other girls my age wore.
I exercised more than 3x a day for hours, changed the way I eat (NOT dieting, but rather a lifestyle change - proportion control, less pop and sugar and overcame my binging habit); and in 2 months I lost 15-20 pounds.

2. Grooming
My mother was very old-fashioned back then and did not want me to remove any body hair etc.A relative suggested I work on my eyebrows - and it helped give me a boost since I felt it gave me a more
 
beans said:
I'm just curious to know what you have done to improve your looks for e.g if you were overweight, what did you do about it? Or if you had dull hair, what have you done with it? If you thought your dressing was bad, did you change your wardrobe, consulted an image consultant? How much did you spend on these things etc? How did it help in your social life? How long were you able to maintain the look? Did it change your self esteem?

I started losing my hair when I was in my 20's. I know the 'bald look' is supposed to work but it doesn't with me. It's all to do with the shape of my head. I've always hated my looks since. I do have quite a nice face and nice eyes (a few women have mentioned my eyes !)

Anyway in my late 20's I bought a few products. Hair regrowth tablets and this powder stuff which looked like soot. Both were cheap and completely rubbish. I had as well looked at the hair company's such as advanced hair studio. They were too far away though from where I lived though.

Four years ago however, one opened in my town. I went to see them and there and then agreed to a process that would give me my hair back. Cost £2,500. Had the treatment (lol) which turned out to be sticking a wig on my head and then got told it would cost a furthur £42 a month for an hair cut. Got home and had a chat with my Dad and we agreed I just looked foolish. I was 38 at the time and the new hair was that of someone 14. There was way too much of it. So I took the hair piece of my head and with all the glue and that I had to shave all my hair off. That was tough, going to work with a bald head, people saying things. ( A few women said it was better, My Mam hated it !) I wrote to the company asking for half my money back, they didn't respond. I saved the money up a bit at a time, depriving myself of almost everything. Learned a valuable lesson. Now I shave my hair myself using this electric shaver and have it quite short.

 
putter65 said:
beans said:
I'm just curious to know what you have done to improve your looks for e.g if you were overweight, what did you do about it? Or if you had dull hair, what have you done with it? If you thought your dressing was bad, did you change your wardrobe, consulted an image consultant? How much did you spend on these things etc? How did it help in your social life? How long were you able to maintain the look? Did it change your self esteem?

I started losing my hair when I was in my 20's. I know the 'bald look' is supposed to work but it doesn't with me. It's all to do with the shape of my head. I've always hated my looks since. I do have quite a nice face and nice eyes (a few women have mentioned my eyes !)

Anyway in my late 20's I bought a few products. Hair regrowth tablets and this powder stuff which looked like soot. Both were cheap and completely rubbish. I had as well looked at the hair company's such as advanced hair studio. They were too far away though from where I lived though.

Four years ago however, one opened in my town. I went to see them and there and then agreed to a process that would give me my hair back. Cost £2,500. Had the treatment (lol) which turned out to be sticking a wig on my head and then got told it would cost a furthur £42 a month for an hair cut. Got home and had a chat with my Dad and we agreed I just looked foolish. I was 38 at the time and the new hair was that of someone 14. There was way too much of it. So I took the hair piece of my head and with all the glue and that I had to shave all my hair off. That was tough, going to work with a bald head, people saying things. ( A few women said it was better, My Mam hated it !) I wrote to the company asking for half my money back, they didn't respond. I saved the money up a bit at a time, depriving myself of almost everything. Learned a valuable lesson. Now I shave my hair myself using this electric shaver and have it quite short.


Interesting story. Well comedian Chris Rocker used to talk about the extent of what black women do with their hair to make it look less-African. They spend about 3 hours a day in the morning before leaving home to get it to look like white people's hair. So he said something that I would remember forever - "What is important is not what is on your head but what's in your head." lol

As for myself, ever since I was a teenger, I've had acne all the way into my adulthood. I can safely say I spent a couple of thousands for acne treatment. When I was 15, my friend invited 2 boys out for an outing. The next day, my friend asked them what the boys thought of me and one of them said "The ugly one with the zits?" That really hurt me and ever since then, I was always conscious about my acne. I've had people come up to me and and ask me "Ugh, why do you have so many pimples?"

And I'm thinking "gee I don't know, I guess they like me."

I remember when I was 22 and I was working as a small time lifestyle magazine writer, my co-worker who was about 26 was tall, slim and had clear skin would tell me "Geez, why is your face so oily? Can you wipe it off? etc etc" and people often say I'm sweating when really it's not the sweat.

What hurts most is that people think that I don't 'look after' my skin or take care of it when really, I have spent so much money on treatments and I did the whole natural remedy thing, gobbled pills that made it worse, etc.

Anyways, I used to buy every and I mean EVERY brand of facewash I knew that said would remove pimples from the counter. Nothing worked. Then I took one step further - went to a skin treatment centre where you've to go through about 10-12 sessions of them pinching all your pimples out. That hurt so much, whenever they did that, my whole body stiffens and tears will roll down my eyes because of the pain.

That didn't solve the problem too. Then I went to see a couple of skin specialists where they gave me oral treatment which really really cleared everything up but as soon as I get off them, it returns. They are also very expensive medication to take.

When I was in my early 20s, I had this guy friend who had very clear nice skin and he told me that the face is the most important to him and he would not date a girl with zits.

When I was on that oral medication and my skin was the best, I honestly had temporary happiness. I felt like for the first time in my life, I could look at someone in their eyes with confidence. Before, especially when I was talking with the opposite sex, I'd look down and was afraid to look at them right in the face because of my skin. But like I said, it was temporary. Although when my skin was clear, I happily traveled, went to socialize, just loved brushing my hands against my face, but I don't think it was the kind of confidence I was looking for. I still got rejected for other reasons other than my skin by the opposite sex. So yeah....


 
beans said:
I'm just curious to know what you have done to improve your looks for e.g if you were overweight, what did you do about it? Or if you had dull hair, what have you done with it? If you thought your dressing was bad, did you change your wardrobe, consulted an image consultant? How much did you spend on these things etc? How did it help in your social life? How long were you able to maintain the look? Did it change your self esteem?

1. Weight-loss/ Dressing better
It started in 2006 when I finally decided that it was time to work on my weight and improve my health. For a long time, I struggled with my weight and I was constantly sweating, tired and could not wear clothing that other girls my age wore.
I exercised more than 3x a day for hours, changed the way I eat (NOT dieting, but rather a lifestyle change - proportion control, less pop and sugar and overcame my binging habit); and in 2 months I lost 15-20 pounds.

2. Skin care
I used to be plagued with pimples all over my forehead. My aunt became tired looking at it and she taught me how to pop pimples. So far, I have not scarred from popping my pimples; but I do seem to get a few every week. I used Pro-activ for a while but I find that it really dries out the skin and is overpriced. I just stick with face-wash now.
I've been told that I have really nice skin quite a few times - I think the key is putting on sunscreen/ sunblock to keep the skin looking youthful.
I have been doing that daily since I was 13; as much as I would love to be tanned/ darker-skinned; I would much rather be pasty and smooth as opposed to tanned and aged since the "tan glow" is actually the colour of damaged skin. I've tried self-tanners, but I tend to go orange and the smell is terrible.

3. Grooming/ Make-up
My mother was very old-fashioned back then and did not want me to remove any body hair etc. After a relative had a professional wax my eyesbrows, it was "F*** what Mom thinks...I'm going to do it on my own!". :p
I learned a bit of simple make-up from just observing my mom.

All in all...it has helped me improve my self-image. I still have a lot of insecurities but improvement is still improvement no matter how big or small.
 
Luna said:
I've tried self-tanners, but I tend to go orange and the smell is terrible.

If you're interested, there's this stuff called "Fake Bake" self-tanning spray. It works, and looks natural. My sister uses it all the time. It smells a bit, but not too bad at all. Also washes off pretty easily in the shower. Cons: Sometimes the spray sputters if the nozzle isn't clean. Don't recommend wearing white, either.
 
I've got quite a beauty routine going at this point, I've been wanting to look my best lately.
Nails: I give myself French manicures.
Hair: I color my hair to cover my premature graying and use a flat iron to make it perfectly straight. It gets washed and conditioned every day and I'm currently trying a type of shampoo and conditioner that supposedly helps prevent breakage and split-ends.
Eyes: I need glasses or contacts, so I opt for green contacts to accentuate my naturally greenish eyes. I finally learned how to properly apply eyeliner and I wear eyeshadow and mascara (nothing too heavy or cake-y).
Skin: I put on a base layer of SPF 55+ sunscreen on anything that will be exposed to preserve my pale complexion and prevent more freckles. On my face I wear foundation to even out my complexion, and blush.
Body: I watch my weight so that I am in an acceptable range for my height and age. I should exercise more, but I anticipate that I'll be doing a lot of walking and I live at the lower part of a hill so if I really want to tire myself out, I just have to try and jog a few blocks uphill.
Accessories: My minimum jewelry pieces are a white gold bracelet, my wedding rings, a silver ring on my right hand, and earrings that will match my outfit.
Clothes: I take care to pick clothes that I feel are age-appropriate and fashionable. I'm too old to shop at Abercrombie and Fitch and American Eagle for everything. I'm not going to buy $800 sweaters at Saks either, though. I try to hit a happy medium: An expensive skirt from Nordstrom's paired with a cheap long-sleeve sweater from Old Navy and flat leather boots. My shoes have to be practical due to lots of city walking, but I opt for dressier shoes over sneakers. I once boycotted jeans and only wore skirts, but I may have to become more flexible because it's so windy here. I quickly learned that a short skirt made of light fabric flies right up. Descending down to the subway is particularly bad if a train's coming in, although a long coat can help weigh down a skirt. So perhaps jeans will have to reappear in my wardrobe. I hate shopping for jeans because I'm petite and I end up ordering online to find a short length or else they'll drag the ground and just not fit correctly. Anyway, I try to look nice and strangers compliment me sometimes, so I must succeed now and then.
Hygiene: I shower daily, practice good dental hygiene, wear deodorant, shave, etc.

In case you're all wondering, yes it does take me absolutely forever to get ready to go anywhere :p My next task will be figuring how what to do about my slightly bushy eyebrows :(
 
when i was a teenager, i was overweight. i mean, like 30 lbs overweight. one day, i ran into a good friend of mine who i hadn't seen in a really long time. i was really excited to see her, and before she could ask me how i've been and what i've been up to, she said "... what happened to you? you're really fat!". this crushed me, and i decided to take charge of my weight problem.

so i signed up for the gym and started a strict diet and exercise program, and over the course of one month, i was able to lose those 30 lbs. it was an insane amount of weight to lose in that period of time, and i probably became anemic without realizing it, but i was determined to get in shape. so a few weeks later, i bumped into my lady friend again, and she was just absolutely astonished, not just because of my transformation, but because i told her that i decided to lose weight because of her cruel and insensitive comment. she apolized immediately, then i told her it was ok, and then we went had lunch together.

it was absolutely a boost to my self-esteem because everyone was talking about my transformation, and all the ladies at my work and in school were after me like i was the only man on the planet. it made me feel great during that time.
 
At different times in my 42 years, in order to change my appearance, I've lost weight, dyed my hair/changed hair styles, updated my wardrobe, worn a wee bit of makeup... the usual.

JamaisVu said:
My next task will be figuring how what to do about my slightly bushy eyebrows :(


Pluck those bad boys. That's what I do. I DESPISE waxing and threading sounds needlessly painful.
 
I make sure my eyebrows are straight/trimmed, I make sure my body hair isn't excessive... same with odor, etc. Just routine hygiene.

Other than that... I don't really give a fresia how I look. I'm not gonna waste my life trying to change my appearance just to suit others' needs.
 
I waxed a rectangle out of my leg hair once. Whether it improved anything or not is objective, but I thought I'd share a moment of eccentricity with you all.
 
Lmao...Renae took an electric eye brows trimmer to me..its hurted like a son of *****.
She dosnt mine going to thrief stores..She butcher her jeans too.hahahaa. They look like $100 designer jenes after she get done with them.

My gf has natural curry hair. She used sometype of hair straghten. Shes dyed her hair dark brown. Shes a natural blonde. Her beautiful blue eyes stands out. On top of her size D boobs. She has a very pretty face.
It dosnt matter what style as long
as her hair is well groomed
She still likes to wear a little make up.
She also wear fake eyes lashes to
bring out her eyes.She takes walks everyday. She likes to play with her nails. She also shave all over.


She dosnt do any of those things for me..Shes ganna dye her hair purple or a purple streak...
Shes a rocker, punkish, hello Kitty kind of gal. Walks around the house
in cutted jeans and sneakers...

She wear dresses and hi heel for business.
 
Within the last few months, I've bought exercise equipment, got a new iPod and wireless headphones (music keeps me moving!), got back on Jenny Craig, have scheduled to see a physician for an exam (I have an "iffy" thyroid), have been to the dentist and am considering some light cosmetic dental work, am scheduled to see a dermatologist and stopped haphazardly cutting my own hair - leaving that to the salon now.

Ooo, I forgot; I'm also looking into getting contacts again. I'm so glad to be working and have insurance again so I can afford these services, but the biggest step is overcoming my tendency to avoid people, because I really do want to be healthier and happier and I need these other people to help me get there. :shy:

I'm learning to manage my time better, as well, because I can be obsessive when I'm working on a project and wouldn't eat well, drink enough water or get enough sleep.
 

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