VanillaCreme said:
You can't honestly tell me that there aren't abusive women, whether they're lesbians or not. Not only that, you can't tell me that there aren't abusive gay men. If you can honestly tell me either of those, then I'll retract my previous opinion.
Hi, my name is Pinni, and I'm a white, bisexual woman. I've punched my spouse hard enough to make him bleed, cry and bruise. Twice.
SophiaGrace said:
90% of inmates in prison are male and most rapists are male. It does say males tend to be more violent but females can be just as nasty, only in other ways.
It's also possible your statistics are flawed just because men aren't taken seriously, when they make accusations against women.
It's an unfortunate state of things. This attitude makes it seem like it's okay for a girl to punch a guy. You can see it everywhere - movies, literature, comics... A female character punching a male character is a strong, independent character, but should they switch places, it'd be frowned upon.
I already admitted having committed violence. There's no defence for me. I don't even know what to tell you of the situation, except where I was shocked I had that kind of rage in me, other people seemed amused. My friends kept telling me "he deserved it" or just plain laughed. It was horrifying, and sobering. I can't cause another person to weep on the ground, and having people mock the attacked. It makes me cry just thinking I could do that.
My mother and aunt have both been in violent relationships. In my mother's case it's a bit more understandable, she's a compassionate and understanding person, and the man had issues from childhood. Mom just kept understanding until the man put a knife on her throat - she finally realised she's going to die if she doesn't get out. Stared him right into the eyes and for once it was he who broke into tears.
My aunt has a backbone made out of steel, and she had a wonderful support group, what with living right next door to her own parents and my mother, and being in good terms with the other neighbours. I understand she sort of got used to the situation, as it started slowly. IN the end the beating was easier to take, it was over sooner and he would just leave after it, instead of abusing her verbally all day long. She was also proud, and couldn't admit she made a mistake bringing that person into her life. She needed other people to take action and free her.
Having seen both sides, I still just can't understand.
