Why do you think you're lonely?

[vivid_details]

I'm lonely because:

1. I'm single, and I long to experience romance, even if it isn't long lasting, I'd like to know what it feels like to at least hold hands.

2. Apart from two close friends whom I rarely see, and aging parents, I spend my days alone. Sometimes, its nice to just talk to someone about your day and their day, or whats on their mind.

 

[AaronAgassi]

I move that now that we have collected our datum, let us compare and contrast our impressions and situations, and particularly with a mind to separate quantitative from qualitative issues of desired satisfactory human interaction and contact. I open the floor to discussion.

 

[lonely2beeme]

1. I'm single, and I long to experience romance, even if it isn't long lasting, I'd like to know what it feels like to at least hold hands.

maybe its a blessing if you have never had a relationship
i have loved and loved deeply and once you know what its like to have loved to have it taken away to love someone and have them walk away from you , the memory of how they made you feel ,it becomes almost unbearable to be without it.to have your skin burn to be touched ,to think you will just die if someone doesnt touch you.
i was never easy, i never slept around ,my husband did for years.
but sometimes i wish i could just pick someone up sometimes i wish i could just bring someone home ,even if its a lie ,its my lie its my 20 minutes of pretending someone loves me,......but i am not that brave .
i do not go out , i have no idea how to go about attracting a guy and i too am haveing weight problems after being alone so long ,what can i say misery loves company and the only thing that loves my ass is ronald mc donald.
i wish i never knew what love was , then i wouldnt know what i am missing.
sad thing is my daughter is 16 and still a virgin ,yes good girl. but also i worry because she saw how badly her father treated me ,then she saw how badly i hurt when my boyfriend left me because he couldnt deal with the kids ,the ex and the baggage and now she tells me she doesnt want to date or marry.she loves her internet,she loves her computer and thats it.she never goes out.i worry that she will be as alone and lonely as i am and no mother wants her child to make the same mistakes as she did. i just feel so lonely and shut off in my life.

 

[mimizu]

I feel lonely because everytime I look around me I see happy people with friends, and I don't have anyone I can call a real friend

I feel lonely when i can't go to the movies, because I'm too ashamed to go alone

I feel lonely when I sit in my room at night with nothing to do

Awesome post.

 

[Archer14]

Lonely2beeme, you must pick yourself up and move on. For if you don't, the world wil move on and then it'll be too late. Doesn't matter if you have a lover or not, you have to stand up for yourself and brighten up your daughters day. Don't let her keep to herself when she she should be out starting and breaking relationships...it's all a part of life. We must accept it the way it is. Think of it this way, if she made some nice friends, you'd at least socialise more and not get lonelier as each day passes. Better to have people move around life than none at all, for the greatest joy of life is in expreriencing both the good and bad of it. For some the bad figures more, but there's always a good day. Hope makes the world turn around!
Don't shut yourself off because other shut you off - take charge of your life.

 

[lonely2beeme]

Lonely2beeme, you must pick yourself up and move on. For if you don't, the world wil move on and then it'll be too late. Doesn't matter if you have a lover or not, you have to stand up for yourself and brighten up your daughters day. Don't let her keep to herself when she she should be out starting and breaking relationships...it's all a part of life. We must accept it the way it is. Think of it this way, if she made some nice friends, you'd at least socialise more and not get lonelier as each day passes. Better to have people move around life than none at all, for the greatest joy of life is in expreriencing both the good and bad of it. For some the bad figures more, but there's always a good day. Hope makes the world turn around!
Don't shut yourself off because other shut you off - take charge of your life.

its very hard you have no idea how much i am forcing myself atm just to come to this site and talk i keep thinking ok i tried enough. but i tell myself ok you posted at least go back and read one more day what else you got to do?
i have never met anyone so scared of life than me
its my reason why i have come to find self imprisonment better than the pain of people outside , sometimes just to go to the shopping store to buy dinner causes me such anxiety like the world starts to slowly rotate and gets fatser and faster till i think i wil vomit and other days i cant wait just to go outside and watch my youngest play in the yard,but most of the time i feel invisable , i feel as if no one sees or hears me
no one would notice if i disappear tommorrow

 

[AaronAgassi]

Sounds like panic attack.

 

[silentsithus]

I think I'm just sort of crazy. I don't have very good social skills.. I look sort of like Robert Englund to... I think those combined traits.. may throw people off.. my social skill are so bad.

 

[Dalo11]

I'm lonely because I'm a shy, intovert in social situations (not others though). It's as simple as that for me I think.

 

[mimizu]

silentsithus:

is that you? :-D

 

[Dalo11]

No.....this is me.....

 

[mimizu]

Your noodliness! ;p

 

[silentsithus]

Pretty close, but I still have my skin, no claws.. and cant enter females minds in their sleep

 

[justjames]

I'm lonely because I can't identify with anyone. I have 3 friends that I can identify with, but I live on an (actual) island and they don't anymore so i don't see them much at all.

I go out of my way to be entertaining around everyone else and i constantly organise social activities so that I am around people which takes the sting out of it a bit, but in reality I feel totally alone because I can't be myself with anyone.

In reality I'm not a comical doofus. That's just a carefully crafted persona that I present to people because I'm too afraid of rejection to show them what I'm really like. The real bug bear with this is that being a comedy doofus means no one takes me seriously, and in reality I'm an extremely serious person. Far too bloody serious for my own good.

I've sorted out all the standard low self esteem, self hatred, low confidence, etc issues now (i'm 28) but all i'm left with is this desolate loneliness, if i could just sort that out i'll have licked the lot.

 

[BrokenDreams]

I'm lonely because nobody understands me. Nobody gets how my past has affected my life. Nobody cares about me. Most people think I'm just some over emotional girl who is all tears and no personality. I can also annoy my friends at times.They don't understand what I've been through. I'm too misunderstood to be truly happy. Instead I am devoured by a pain of extreme lonliness since nobody can understand or love me.

 

[Josh]

Well I know why I am lonely. I grew up through foster homes and being passed around till I was 18. I have never been accepted anywhere only place ever felt belonged was in the Army but got a early discharge. I have 2 friends that if you can call them that people are treated worse by enemies. I have no family no kind of love life only thing that keeps me going is some drive to be normal and succede in life.

 

[ricardo361]

I am lonely because I have never been able to share a proper personal connection with anyone ever in my life. My birth mother left me as a baby and I was adopted at 2 and have not yet been able to track my family.
stardust, that is honeysuckle about your adoptive family and I can understand where you are coming from. If you don't mind me asking, were you internationally adopted?
I can confidently say that many of my personal issues also result from my half-witted adoptive parents and their uneducated and emotionally-retarded approach to bringing me down as a child (no upbringing here). They thought they were pretty darn special doing the humanitarian thing by buying me from the philippines as a baby, bringing me up in rural white australia and refusing to let me have anything to do with the philippines and the culture that I came from. Instead they branded me just an Australian and demanded that I be happy and greatful because now I have an education and a roof over my head. Never mind the comments about being a short, ugly, gook who can't control himself. Or the fact that I was never told that I am worth anything or lovable as a person. As long as I was well enough to work, they were happy.
Now that I am an architect (no thanks to them), they are trying to get me to pay them part of my wages for the 'help' they gave me.
I now live alone and do not see my adoptive family much. I have made my own life but unfortunately those deep scars from childhood remain and they continue to sabbotage my emotional life as an adult. I have found some good friends over the years who have been great company but have never really understood my feelings. I just appreciate their companionship as friends. But having nobody to love or be loved by in my life does make me feel really lonely and a bit like a zombie most of the time.

 

[lloyd]

because I'm 22 and never had a girlfriend or any freinds/social group.
because it's friday night and i'm in my room on my laptop(again)

why??? because i'm hopeless when it comes to being in a group of people.

 

[Wave Shock]

I'm lonely because I've moved many times. I guess my "making new friends" gene got left behind...Quite frankly, I never wanted to make friends that I would soo eventually leave. So now, I'm a quiet person who doesn't have much to say because there really isn't anything to say.

 

[Presence]

I guess it's because I didn't have the best of childhoods, especially with my father, I've moved 7 times, so I've had to deal with; language barriers, race, dress code, mannerisms, there was alot of other stuff as well but it's not important to where my path leads. But it led me to be awkward and anti-social, so I shut my self off from everyone to the point where I didn't want to get out of bed anymore, but deep down there was always a part of me that wanted to have quality friends, relationships etc

At this very moment, I give myself the opportunity to meet new people, I speak to one brand new person everyday, it's funny because starting from one has led me to 30-40 as my average, I have loads of acquaintances now, I guess the quality friends are just round the corner.