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Anywhere you go that you find someone who is having trouble with their self image or feeling down about not getting a girlfriend/boyfriend you will eventually hear ,
“As long as you have a good personality then your physical looks wont matter!” or “Its personality that makes you attractive”
Now I’m not making this thread to try and totally discredit this argument or be a buzz kill, because I think it does hold some truth to it. I do think that at a certain point in someones life then personality does overcome looks as far as finding a companion is concerned.
The argument I’ll make is that the younger generations, as a whole, does place physical attributes much higher in importance than personality. Not because they are shallow or a collective group of a**holes, but because its simply in the nature of our society. A person is naturally going to place a higher value on something that they can touch and see. Going out with someone who is physically attractive provides immediate gratification and reward. People don’t care what their partner will look like in 30 years, they care about what they and the people they know see in the present.
Additianlly, lets be honest, its not rare for a physically good looking guy or girl to have a good personality also. The claim of having an “attractive personality” is thrown around like it’s a rare attribute when, in my opinion, a majority of people out there have a generally good, attractive personality. Assuming that personality was the most favored attribute then the physically gifted would still come out on top simply because they have the best of both worlds.
Now the argument that “Looks fade but personality is forever”
That is 100% true, but like I said above a young person today doesn’t care what their physically attractive partner will look like many years down the road. Their brain tells them that that person is good looking now and it makes them feel good to have a very attractive partner.
Your personality comes into play once you get older and your looks do begin to fade. The ideal situation of personality > looks doesn’t come into play when your in your teens, or 20s, because, for a majority of people, it doesn’t have too.
I guess a summery of my argument is this. Personality is most important only when it has no competition.
Now I’m not trying to make people feel bad about themselves or anything, I’m just telling you like I see it. I know I’m not 100% spot on with everything I’ve said, but I do think my view has an underlining truth to it.
I do hope some of you will post counter-arguments to this. Maybe give me a perspective I didn’t consider or give different opinions. Thanks.
“As long as you have a good personality then your physical looks wont matter!” or “Its personality that makes you attractive”
Now I’m not making this thread to try and totally discredit this argument or be a buzz kill, because I think it does hold some truth to it. I do think that at a certain point in someones life then personality does overcome looks as far as finding a companion is concerned.
The argument I’ll make is that the younger generations, as a whole, does place physical attributes much higher in importance than personality. Not because they are shallow or a collective group of a**holes, but because its simply in the nature of our society. A person is naturally going to place a higher value on something that they can touch and see. Going out with someone who is physically attractive provides immediate gratification and reward. People don’t care what their partner will look like in 30 years, they care about what they and the people they know see in the present.
Additianlly, lets be honest, its not rare for a physically good looking guy or girl to have a good personality also. The claim of having an “attractive personality” is thrown around like it’s a rare attribute when, in my opinion, a majority of people out there have a generally good, attractive personality. Assuming that personality was the most favored attribute then the physically gifted would still come out on top simply because they have the best of both worlds.
Now the argument that “Looks fade but personality is forever”
That is 100% true, but like I said above a young person today doesn’t care what their physically attractive partner will look like many years down the road. Their brain tells them that that person is good looking now and it makes them feel good to have a very attractive partner.
Your personality comes into play once you get older and your looks do begin to fade. The ideal situation of personality > looks doesn’t come into play when your in your teens, or 20s, because, for a majority of people, it doesn’t have too.
I guess a summery of my argument is this. Personality is most important only when it has no competition.
Now I’m not trying to make people feel bad about themselves or anything, I’m just telling you like I see it. I know I’m not 100% spot on with everything I’ve said, but I do think my view has an underlining truth to it.
I do hope some of you will post counter-arguments to this. Maybe give me a perspective I didn’t consider or give different opinions. Thanks.