The-One
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I don't know any ugly people with good social skills. I myself am an ugly mofo with terrible social skills in both personal and increasing of late professional scenarios as I move through higher education.
The personal is what you'd expect, little real life platonic or erotic interaction but the professional sounds laughable. Fired from a salesman job for gross incompetence. Forced resignation (did not stick around to be put on probation, harrassed then fired) from waiting job for "not gelling" with the rest of staff socially. Failed every interview that has ever required me to demonstrate a competency in working with people in a group. Luckily my last interview for my university course was one on one.
I am this way because I have been ugly all my life, the sum of every interaction that should have been a learning experience but never was. Success begets success and failure begets failure. I do not feel I have learnt anything positive from my social failures.
I believe being ugly negatively socialises people. Where by positive socialisation is a virtuous circle; negative socialisation is a vicious circle. A good looking kid growing up will be propelled to success while a ugly looking kid will be driven to pariahood and failure. The effect is cumulative on the affected and self fulfilling to those affecting.
My answer is to become beautiful via surgery (what I will look like immediately after my planned surgeries)/exercise/diet to wipe the slate and attempt to start anew. But I realise some people are beyond fixing in that manner or do not agree ideologically with the pursuit of beauty or right now are just too young to do anything but still have hopes.
What makes you hopeful that you will gain social skills looking like the way you do now?
The personal is what you'd expect, little real life platonic or erotic interaction but the professional sounds laughable. Fired from a salesman job for gross incompetence. Forced resignation (did not stick around to be put on probation, harrassed then fired) from waiting job for "not gelling" with the rest of staff socially. Failed every interview that has ever required me to demonstrate a competency in working with people in a group. Luckily my last interview for my university course was one on one.
I am this way because I have been ugly all my life, the sum of every interaction that should have been a learning experience but never was. Success begets success and failure begets failure. I do not feel I have learnt anything positive from my social failures.
I believe being ugly negatively socialises people. Where by positive socialisation is a virtuous circle; negative socialisation is a vicious circle. A good looking kid growing up will be propelled to success while a ugly looking kid will be driven to pariahood and failure. The effect is cumulative on the affected and self fulfilling to those affecting.
My answer is to become beautiful via surgery (what I will look like immediately after my planned surgeries)/exercise/diet to wipe the slate and attempt to start anew. But I realise some people are beyond fixing in that manner or do not agree ideologically with the pursuit of beauty or right now are just too young to do anything but still have hopes.
What makes you hopeful that you will gain social skills looking like the way you do now?