supernova88
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These past few weeks I have been extremely depressed and anxious about my lot in life without a social circle. I am lucky to say I do have some friends, most of whom I met in college, however I attended school in another state and even my closest pals live far away. After a friend recently cancelled on plans for me to visit, it really hit home the fact I have no close peers to turn to anymore.
I am aware enough to know that even people with friends don't live some endless party. However I often feel that my lack of a social circle means I have missed out on many opportunities to enjoy my mid 20s. While people I know might, every once in a while, hit the town for some well deserved fun with their friends, I'm sitting at home by myself. I swear, nothing hurts worse than getting a text, call, or Facebook message from some college friend having a blast on Halloween, New Years Eve, or even some random Saturday night with the friends they've kept or made since our days at school. Even something as simple as going to the movies or grabbing a beer are outside my realm of possibility.
Try as I might to make friends, I always run into the same problem: people think I am pleasant, polite, interesting, and great to talk to, but they have no energy or desire to take that next step and be my friend. I've gone to parties, clubs, and youth trips around the world and always return home without a hint of a new companion. I feel that at this point in life everyone else already has their established social circle - perhaps old friends from high school or college - and there's no more room for some new guy to join the mix. Even those I was closest with are starting to drift away, and our ability or desire to keep in touch continues to dwindle.
I am lost what to do. Whereas everyone I know can fall back on circles of friends they've had for years, with rich and exciting histories, I am struggling to make a life of my own without anyone to share it with. And even if I were to find a new circle, at my age most people are settling down, establishing their careers, getting married, maybe even having kids. I feel my chance to be a carefree 20-something socialite has evaporated, and I will never get those years, experiences, or memories back.
I don't know what I'm looking for here - advice, or sympathy, or just the knowledge I'm not alone feeling alone. Whatever people have to share is much appreciated.
I am aware enough to know that even people with friends don't live some endless party. However I often feel that my lack of a social circle means I have missed out on many opportunities to enjoy my mid 20s. While people I know might, every once in a while, hit the town for some well deserved fun with their friends, I'm sitting at home by myself. I swear, nothing hurts worse than getting a text, call, or Facebook message from some college friend having a blast on Halloween, New Years Eve, or even some random Saturday night with the friends they've kept or made since our days at school. Even something as simple as going to the movies or grabbing a beer are outside my realm of possibility.
Try as I might to make friends, I always run into the same problem: people think I am pleasant, polite, interesting, and great to talk to, but they have no energy or desire to take that next step and be my friend. I've gone to parties, clubs, and youth trips around the world and always return home without a hint of a new companion. I feel that at this point in life everyone else already has their established social circle - perhaps old friends from high school or college - and there's no more room for some new guy to join the mix. Even those I was closest with are starting to drift away, and our ability or desire to keep in touch continues to dwindle.
I am lost what to do. Whereas everyone I know can fall back on circles of friends they've had for years, with rich and exciting histories, I am struggling to make a life of my own without anyone to share it with. And even if I were to find a new circle, at my age most people are settling down, establishing their careers, getting married, maybe even having kids. I feel my chance to be a carefree 20-something socialite has evaporated, and I will never get those years, experiences, or memories back.
I don't know what I'm looking for here - advice, or sympathy, or just the knowledge I'm not alone feeling alone. Whatever people have to share is much appreciated.