LeaningIntoTheMuse said:
Speaking of online dating sites, they are rigged for women and against men.
1. There are 4 times more women there than men
2. The women only respond to the conventionally attractive, or the top 10%
3. You have to have a perfect profile
4. Many times the women there are flaky and only playing games
5. The ones that are serious are unattractive, or single moms, and if that's not what you're looking for, you're screwed
I was frustrated and then was releived to know, that mnay men, even good looking mean experince the same thing. A lot of dating sites get to by using the hook and switch technique. They will so gourgous women, saying they sent you a message (bots), and they get you to pay to read message
but not all
Plenty Of Fake (I'm sorry, I mean Fish. Plenty Of Fish), the
a lot of the women there are so picky. Even says in their profile, that they are high standard. I emailed over 200 people only only got 5 response back, none of them went anywhere. Of course, I was messaging the good looking ones, a lot of good looking women have crappy personalities
same for men.
I was on there for 2 years, on and off. When I read the POFsucks blog, I was kinda relieved that it wasn't be personally. In December, two days before Christmas, I had enough. I closed my account and never looked back.
A lot of the women have problem, looking for sugar daddies and most of all, looking for good looking men with lots of money, someone like Brad Pitt or something. ALl the people at pofsucks blog has the same or similar problems.
I simply can not live up to the expectations/standards or get their attention on POF. Another secret is. Most good looking girls are bombarded with messages, so they can just pick the best looking guy. I tried on to occasions making fake profiles of girls, gave a lame profile (even said I had Axpergers and struggling with social skills). I got one message after another, and couldn't keep up with them all. Most where just "Him How are you", met some great looking guys, but they were straight and I was posing as a girl, so it wouldn’t have worked out for me.
I couldn't believe the messages and chat requests I was getting. Even with a lame profile and not much efforts, just a few sentences about me that were real. One of the many reasons I wish I was a girl.
So that is the answer why girls often don't respond to guys and are so have high standards in their profile. Some are just plain bitchy. It is the get less massages and rake out all the messages and find the guy that suites her (or at least think he does).
If you want a girls attention on dating sites, you really got to put a lot of effort into saying something, and say something that stands out. I know it;s hard. WHat I find interesting, is that these girls are on there for over a year. I go back after a year and see some of the same girls.
Just some, not most.
If you get a girls attention and you didn't give much effort or you not someone hot like Brad Pitt or someone, you'll lucky.[/b]
I manged to get approx 5 replied out of over 200+. I was honest, I tried not to sound like an insecure person who was just desperate, at least I got replies.
Here's another interesting thing, I will share with you.
Why are women going onto these websites? I mean, if it's so easy for women to meet guys, then why are they taking the time and spending the money to go to these websites? I'm talking millions of women here, all over the world. Well the fact of the matter is that women, have a hard time meeting men, because remember, most of the time, women wait for the guys to do it. You see, their sending out signals but most of the guys don't realize them. So what happens, the women ends up going home frustrated because she hasn't met anyone and the guys are frustrated because he didn't know what to do and when to do it.
Well, we completely eliminated that because we're using the internet. The fact is, it's hard for women to meet guys, and once you know this, it's extremely powerful because, they don't have as much control as you think they do. You see, it's all about your mind set, and once your realize that you're on a level applying for that that point because it's hard for them to meet guys as well. You realize that, you're not in that bad a of situation. Fact, you're probably in a better situation then here because typically, guys have to be proactive about this. We're the ones that has to make the first steps. You see, she's stuck waiting. All she can do is just get pretty. And look good for when she does meet someone. You don't have to worry about that because you're actually going out and making the first step.
So I think, once you understand this, you understand why women are on this sites because they're having a hard time meeting the guy, a good guy, then it's going to be a lot easier. You're going to have the upper hand. I learned this because I interviewed over a thousand women, and they all, each everyone one of them said “you know it's really hard to meet a guy when you're out. If I'm out with my friends, I don't want to bothered, the place is too loud, I get picked up by drunk guys”. Stuff like that. They don't want that, so this is a very easy way using the internet to meet tons of women, you'll normally never get an opportunity to meet.
