I don't date so I don't need to.
Ditto.. unless you include online dating, but getting past her defenses online before she ghosts you, is hard enough.. I've only been on two dates, and one was a blind date (literally, she was blind).
I just can't do dating like job finding, with the whole dropping off 1000 resumes to get one callback.. I'm too sensitive for that honeysuckle.
Some part of me actually prefers to ignore that other people even exist, because it's the only thing that keeps me sane, and gives me any chance at being remotely happy for more than a day at a time(and once in a blue moon at that). Hence my random disappearances from this site. It hasn't been uncommon for me to go weeks or even months without talking to anyone besides CSRs and cab drivers (since I it's winter, and I still gotta eat).
What is it that YOU (not every man in the world, just you) find attractive in a partner?
An intellectually objective thinker, non judgemental, quirky/michevious. One of the few people that hasn't murdered their inner child. Also, someone that's emotionally supportive, and acts like a partner in order to help me achieve my dreams. Make no mistake though, I wouldn't expect such a thing if I was not willing to give an equal level of support as well.
As for looks, I'm not judgey, but I was raised in a judgy world, so some of that rubbed off on me, so.. someone that's not 'hot' but not bottom of the barrel ugly. Like I said, I'm not a fan of the women with skimpy clothing and bulked on make-up. I have more respect for a woman in jogging pants and a T-shirt with no make-up.
Do you truly believe romance is "selfless"? Or are the selfless males just trying to get laid?
Sadly that is often the case.. males in this society aren't typically raised to be intellectuals, so much as they are to be walking chunks of manmeat that hit things, like Hulk if he was horny.
Have you ever worn make up? Or some of the clothes that women do to make their man happy? Used a curling iron or any number of tools to make your hair look better? None of this would be how I would categorize "taking care of myself".
Assuming you're a woman, if that is the kinda stuff you do to "make your man happy" then it's a wonder you're having trouble finding a decent match, or you just got lucky and hit the jackpot (not sure if you're with someone or not, only that you're "not dating"). Cuz millions of women have difficulty finding a 'good man', cuz they sell themselves as sex objects rather than as people. Then they get pissed off cuz the only guys they can find, only want sex.. >,<
it's still uncomfortable af.
So don't do it.. do you really want to pull the attention of the sorts of men that would have their attention pulled by such a thing?
I swear, I did not read this before placing my interests, lol..
they aren't doing it for themselves.
They
really aren't, lol.. unless they're interested in hookups vs meaningful relationships, they really have no reason to dress like that.
Which is why I feel like you are off base a bit in trying to generalize what women do and what men do and comparing it.
I was never trying to generalize anything. Only pointing out mainstream mentality, which even you added evidence of in your own post.
What sparked this anyway? Are you mad about something? Is there a specific person you want to be romantic with and you feel like it's not possible?
Naw, just trying to spark conversation. It's a lonely time of the year for me, so I was just stirring up some meaningless banter to fill the void. Sides, it largely is true that the men have to put out extra effort in initiating relationships.
But if I'm frustrated at anything, it's society, for being willfully blind to the many toxic traditions carried on in social contexts. They continue to get mad about some things, while ignoring the core issues at the heart of those issues..
it's great and really nice! One of best presents for me I can think of
