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Everyone tells you that you shouldn't be looking for a relationship, that they should just happen. I've never understood that, until some two weeks ago. I've been longing for a girlfriend since elementary school, but it has always felt like it's something out of reach for me. Either I'm ugly or...

I've never thought about being stressed out before; I don't really know what it feels like. Maybe like this? A light pressure in my chest, started having that today. An upset stomach most of the time, though I do eat lots of carbs (~380g/day). Feeling nervous often, sudden/quick moves. Worrying...

Why are there so many rating measurements here on this forum? I figured a forum for lonely and depressed people shouldn't do that. I'm talking about the "Warning Level", "Reputation", "Thread Rating", etc. Just a thought.

Okay, this will be a somewhat New Age-y post, so here: I was sitting, on my floor, meditating to some music to stimulate emotions and to have something to focus on. After a while, I started thinking, or I "got a vision", that I'm actually two entities; one rational mind that does all the...

Settling down here, is it possible? I’m just letting the days pass, not really feeling like this is it. What’s my life supposed to be? My goals, to start my own company and later, take on teaching at the university. Is that to be my future, here in this city? In this apartment? I love this city...

Can someone help me clear this up? I'm not excited about going on first dates, nor meeting new friends, though people in general seem to like those kinds of things. I'm confident that I'm able to handle a situation like that well enough, I think, and that it'll probably be fun. But I keep...

Maybe a bit misleading title, but hey: Ok. This happens quite often: I go out with two friends to watch a movie. I get 'pumped up' socially; I become talkative and confident. Just to have them leave me because they have other appointments, or are tired! Now I'm sitting in my apartment, wasting...

How do you experience loneliness? What does it mean? Is it sadness caused by being alone, and can thus be removed by adding better relationships and which would make one feel content in this regard? Ie, it's defined not by itself, but what would fix it? Or is it a special kind of feeling, like...

Hi, I think I might be addicted to dating. I think it's getting me burnt out, especially from the online variant. I keep checking my profile all the time when I'm at home and it's just not creative. I wish I could give up looking for a relationship so I could focus on happiness in other areas...

Hi, just a quick question: will a girl that isn't interested try to completely avoid talking about sex? I mean, what if you're spending some time with a girl, and she mentions sex in some non-negative way. For example, if she would say "Always when I speak in a foreign language, I say sexual...

So, I had a second date with someone. Doesn't happen very often I can tell you! It turned out it was going to be the very kind of date that is the reason I hate dating: very awkward, me trying to make small talk but it was just so much pressure and expectations to be a laid-back, fun and flirty...

I need some help with things to do in the evenings, preferably something that involves meeting new people (even better if it involves girls!) So what do you do when you get back from work? I go to the gym twice on weekdays, but I get home at around 7, so I would like to do more things. I used to...

My job has turned sour, I'm doing mindless stuff. I've actually started taking naps in my chair, it's more productive time. Though I am building things out of coffee cups. It seems there are no new jobs coming for me, though I'm quite good at what I do. It seems I'm too young for the stuff I'm...

Hi! Alright, so I've compiled a list of characteristics I've found in myself over some time now to try to see if there's a common denominator or pattern. Whether it's low self-esteem, or something else. So I will just give them in bullet points, hopefully someone (or myself, from just writing...

Hi, I've created a plan for myself inspired by the book "59 seconds: think a little, change a lot", maybe it's super-silly or overly mechanical, but I'd love some feedback. Is the plan sound, is there something I can add or remove to get closer to my goal? Something you think I should...

Hey forumers! Maybe this problem is a bit strange. Or maybe there's a deeper issue beneath. Anyway; I find it very hard to flirt with girls I meet in my day-to-day business because I feel it'd be so cheesy. For example, if I'm in a party with lots of guys and very few girls, I can't show...

I sometimes shy away from parties and other gatherings and I think this is because I have a hard time talking to people in groups. It's not that I'm shy or can't open my mouth; my mind is just pulling blanks. You can hear tumbleweeds in there; I can't come up with anything funny to say, or...

Hi people! I hope this won’t be me whining a lot, but I don’t think I’m happy. I feel like crying for no reason, and the sadness can even be so strong at times that I hit myself in the face. I often think about what it would be like to jump before a train, though it will probably never happen...