We are Jewish (non-religious and we do not practise) and we were casted out of our country so we came here as refugees and established a proper and resourceful life for our selfs as well as our friends who also came the same way as us. In my city there seems to be an influx of student/work visa individuals who come here to leech so to speak. Many of those do want to find a sucker to remain in the country for a free pass for their families I've seen it happen and it broke the most hardest of men who fell for it. Just not worth it. So that's my logic for not wanting to date a non-citizen is due to the fact of how myself and my family (and all of my close friends and their families) came to the states as opposed to the student/work visa luxury. Us and our friends is an exemplary way of an immigrant who properly comes to the Unites States.
I, for some reason, feel that it won't be as meaningful if I would say marry someone who's been through it all and experienced it. I'm a jokester so I'd definitely see myself saying things a lot the lines of "oh holy matrimony, haven't you done that already" to a point where it will get annoying and upset people and I don't want to do that. The thought of being with someone who already shared a union with someone just rubs me the wrong way, especially if the marriage began at an early age to "just do it" and then "#yolo #divorce" (as the kids say it) It honestly feels like divorces are done just for the hell of it now. Of course if it absolutely needs to happen then it absolutely does but it really seems to be a normal everyday thing and statistics don't seem to lie.
My baggage? Right now I am somewhat struggling with cooping with whatever this is which is why I made a post to get some thoughts and views. While professional to the naked eye I'm a little too street smart for my own good and I take risks but they are all planned, rational and responsible.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I look at individuals who have the above things as someone who's either messed up somewhere down along the line and/or cannot make a responsible choices or just simply make bad choices and they are in the situation that they are in now. This is no way makes them bad or evil and there are two sides of the story always but I am a bit meh of always attracting these types of people it doesn't seem fair to a guy like myself who has no mortgage, own place, car, amazing toys and tech, can get whatever wants and awesome hobbies and great with people skills and interaction and quite honestly amazing on the dance floor!
I don't agree that it's all that's out there as there are singles like myself but I think they are still trying to focus on their careers rather than date. Since I'm already established I have the upper hand so I guess I have to wait to them to catch up and maybe then I can start meeting actual singles.
I am judgmental and I am seriously trying to work on it (one of the reasons for this post also, more or less) but I feel that I've engraved the above so much into logic and through process that it's difficult to change.