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Do women ever ask guys out?
WishingWell said:Just as some women are, some men are either shy or afraid of rejection. The worst that can happen is that the guy will say "no", and that is not the end of the world.
SocratesX said:Yes, women are the gatekeepers of relationships.
A girl knows that the majority of guys with reciprocate interest if she shows it, so all she has to do is show it.
Lynth said:WishingWell said:Just as some women are, some men are either shy or afraid of rejection. The worst that can happen is that the guy will say "no", and that is not the end of the world.
While I agree with this advice, I believe it's much easier for a woman to accept rejection than a man. Which ******* sucks but hey, that's just the way it is....men will always have to try harder next time.
Mary Mary said:What is that based on?Lynth said:WishingWell said:Just as some women are, some men are either shy or afraid of rejection. The worst that can happen is that the guy will say "no", and that is not the end of the world.
While I agree with this advice, I believe it's much easier for a woman to accept rejection than a man. Which ******* sucks but hey, that's just the way it is....men will always have to try harder next time.
Lynth said:Mary Mary said:What is that based on?Lynth said:WishingWell said:Just as some women are, some men are either shy or afraid of rejection. The worst that can happen is that the guy will say "no", and that is not the end of the world.
While I agree with this advice, I believe it's much easier for a woman to accept rejection than a man. Which ******* sucks but hey, that's just the way it is....men will always have to try harder next time.
I believe women to be more attractive on average than men on an objective and subjective level. Although I'm still torn on whether beauty is objective or subjective.
And also because men, on average, are the chasers.
Women put more effort in making themselves desirable and less effort asking men out.
Men put more effort asking women out and less effort making themselves desirable.
So what I'm getting at is a woman could go her whole life and have many partners without ever having asked them out.
For a man, this is nearly impossible. In my opinion.
Lynth said:Mary Mary said:What is that based on?Lynth said:WishingWell said:Just as some women are, some men are either shy or afraid of rejection. The worst that can happen is that the guy will say "no", and that is not the end of the world.
While I agree with this advice, I believe it's much easier for a woman to accept rejection than a man. Which ******* sucks but hey, that's just the way it is....men will always have to try harder next time.
I believe women to be more attractive on average than men on an objective and subjective level. Although I'm still torn on whether beauty is objective or subjective.
And also because men, on average, are the chasers.
Women put more effort in making themselves desirable and less effort asking men out.
Men put more effort asking women out and less effort making themselves desirable.
So what I'm getting at is a woman could go her whole life and have many partners without ever having asked them out.
For a man, this is nearly impossible. In my opinion.
septicemia said:I have let my interest in a couple wonderful men be known before, to find that they were already taken. I found it extremely embarrassing, and havnt been able to bring myself to make the first move since. I recently met a man who I think I could really get along with, my friends told me I should have asked him out. I always figured its the guys job to ask the girl out once shes expressed interest in him, if hes interested in her that is.
Lynth said:So what I'm getting at is a woman could go her whole life and have many partners without ever having asked them out.
For a man, this is nearly impossible. In my opinion.
Mary Mary said:That would make rejection worse for a woman. I stopped caring about being rejected after I worked in sales after I got rejected many, many times. You men pursue and get rejected. The more it happens, the more you get used to it. However, if women only ask men out on a rare occasion, we never have the opportunity to get desensitized to rejection.
Lynth said:Lynth said:So what I'm getting at is a woman could go her whole life and have many partners without ever having asked them out.
For a man, this is nearly impossible. In my opinion.
Mary Mary said:That would make rejection worse for a woman. I stopped caring about being rejected after I worked in sales after I got rejected many, many times. You men pursue and get rejected. The more it happens, the more you get used to it. However, if women only ask men out on a rare occasion, we never have the opportunity to get desensitized to rejection.
I disagree. A man knows in the back of his mind he'll have to try harder next time if he gets rejected.
A woman knows in the back of her mind that plenty of other men will continue to hit on her after being rejected.
So, essentially, when it comes to rejection, the average woman has to make the least amount of effort to be successful next time in getting a mate.
If a man ever rejects a woman I think the main reason would be:
- She's not my type.
If a woman rejects a man, I think the main reasons would be:
- He's not my type
(AND/OR)
- I could do better
By the way, I've never had a relationship so I can't speak from experience but if it would blow my mind if any man here admitted to rejecting a woman because he thought he can do better.
Mary Mary said:Hell, yes. There are tons of men who won't touch a woman unless she was supermodel material.
Mary Mary said:This may come as a shock to you, but not all men are desperate. Do you really think a doctor feels the need to say yes to every woman that shows attention to him?
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