Remedy said:HMoon said:Kind and respectful aren't traits people find attractive, its traits everyone should be expected to have already. Your lack of confidence and utter belief that looks are the be all end all strike me as what makes you dire with women. Read my post somewhere above.
I know I know sorry I didnt mean it to come across that way. I just meant that many women go out with guys who aren't so much. Its just that many people don't have those traits and still find someone rather easily.Some people treat others like garbage and yet, still are liked by people. I guess its when you hate yourself like I do that people end up not liking you even though i try not to show it. I just mean I'm extremely kind and caring for other people but I treat myself like garbage which is probably the problem.
Well, if theres anything I would hazard to guess about women, it would be that they are more finely tuned to emphasize than anything else. And I think maybe, subconsciously, if you have that lack of belief in your heart then the woman would probably sense it as well but in a way that makes her go 'Hmm..I've got a funny feeling about him' rather than 'Ah precisely, he has this and that..'.
I wouldnt say that women go out with men who 'arent so much'. I personally think that it all has to do with personal value. Lets say a tramp comes up to you and asks you for change..i'm willing to guess that you'd on most occasions reject him off hand. If say..an attractive woman did the same, you might not give the change, but you'd be more inclined to listen. The woman has more personal value than the tramp..something that makes you reckon it'll be worthwhile to speak to her.
To put it to an example - I would much prefer to spent time with Will Smith than Eeyore anyday. Will Smith would most likely be of higher value (and in this case, its alot to do with presumptions) and brighten my life more than depressing and doubtful Eeyore would. I hope I make sense.