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It's not finished, but very promising: http://shy-in-the-firelight.com/

If the idea is that we must get used to the pain of letdown and acknowledge that the world goes on when we expose ourselves to socially stressing situations, that means we should find situations that guarantee social pain. But social pain is disappointing or annoying others. We need to minimize...

Hey guys. My social life is bettering at a hefty pace, and I have long known that people like me a lot more than I admit to myself and act through. For one thing, I know a girl who has a hefty crush on me that I am not really admitting to myself. I have also come to see that normal social...

Edit: Can anyone see this? Clicking thread for me redirects me to the deleted duplicate. But clicking the last post in the sidebar takes me here. This is confuuusing... Although if it ends up working this way it's a handy way of having a sort of secret thread :P I wouldn't put this in the Diary...

A bit of a vague an unanswerable question coming in, I am sorry. I've recently watched some movies and played some games that highlighted this "city culture", where everyone knows all the bars an in town, where tons of small subcultures have their favored hideouts and they interact with each...

Even though I have my own room a story above the main part of the apartment, I feel markedly less comfortable when someone else enters the apartment. I am 18 years old, and the other people entering the apartment are: my mother (daily) and my sister (once in a while.) I don't have overt social...

I'm posting this here not because this educated man is magic made flesh or that he is the definite authority on the subject, but in the video he presented a lens through which you can view shyness that did a lot for me and got me thinking and relaxing a bit more. Maybe it'll do a lot of someone...

I have decided to start a room on the Paltalk service, with the goal of creating an environment for shy and socially awkward to converse (possibly practice) on voice chat. Text-chatters are also welcome. You'll find the URL for a browser version of the room below, I believe you need to download...

A generic "where should you meet people?" thread, but here are the circumstances: I might be going without school for some 3 months in order to sync up with the educational instance I want to transfer to. Long story. So, I'd like to be as social as possible until then, especially since I now...

I'm leaving my second year of high school, because I had a depression in the first year and I want to redo the material, plus I want to meet people I didn't interact with during the course of the depression. Now, here is the deal, I don't much like the standardized way school is taught, and I...

I've already scheduled a rigorous social-exposure marathon up ahead, and I am sure my shyness will evaporate in time, but I was just wondering, now that I AM going to a ton of social events to overcome my shyness, is there any way to speed up the process or something? I have all the social...

Greetings I am sometimes wondering if my goal of becoming a music journalist provides sufficient motivation. I keep thinking of something greater to do in life so that I can have a more apparent motivation, but I can't come up with anything. Everything great either has been done or is being...

I found this very well written post by a very intelligent young lady. I doubt it applies to anyone here, it is awfully specific which I think maybe she doesn't communicate properly. Unless it's a kind of guy that a ton of women meet but other guys never see. Very well written though...

Alright, I've been told that I generally talk too abstractly, and this will be abstract, so bear with me. I apologize if I end up just wasting bandwidth with something incomprehensible. Here's the thing: I can go to a party. It's not that hard to mimic a partygoer and then join in yourself. But...

Title seems generic, but hear me out. I have come very close to solving my social problem. Next step, in line with my revelation that it's all about a faulty self-perception, I am going to be outgoing even though it doesn't come to me naturally. In my perception I am not an outgoing guy, and...

Can somebody dissect cliques for me? See, in the past, I would end up in a clique. One of the small ones, the nerds, the artsy types, whatever. But now, I'm trying to get out there, especially because I am realizing that I can't live two lives in high school, I have to just take the school and...

I am in my first year of high school. I started some 8 months ago. I have been asocial because in the beginning I lacked social skills, and after that, I was burdened by homework because of mild apathy. I am some 13 written assignments behind I need to finish. But I am finally ready and able to...

My main question is: when do you talk to people? I can't formulate this question correctly. I can't say exactly what it is I want to know. All I know is that it is keeping me from opening up. Like, in school. People form cliques... What if you are not part of one? How do you know how long to...

So, I feel I am very close to reaching the end of my journey for social skills and will post a success story soon. But for now, I need to make friends in my high school class with my new skills. But everyone are already in their cliques, and I can't find a way to butt in. I was very emotionally...

The more I shape my fantasy super-social me, the more energetic and genki he seems, spontaneous, bouncy. So I thought that development of my ideal self was healthy, but then I keep hitting these scattered sections about how anxiety makes you too frantic and talk to fast. So I start wondering...