Sci-Fi said:No we don't, and that is not what my rant was about. We are a lot more different than you think we are, please don not liken me to you.
Sci-Fi said:It is a load of crap, I know and have seen plenty of these "lesser attractive" people who have a significant other to prove it is nothing but crap.
ardour said:Sci-Fi said:No we don't, and that is not what my rant was about. We are a lot more different than you think we are, please don not liken me to you.
So you’ve been told you’re good looking but you’re still alone, hence any complaints about being too ugly must be crap. But everyone’s been told that at some point by a friend or relative. Nobody's made the argument that looks are a guarantee anyway.
Sci-Fi said:Thanks for pointing out that I'm still alone, how observant of you. Almost forgot this is a loneliness forum.
ardour said:Not as though you just spent half a paragraph talking about it. Excuse me...
Despicable Me said:Who is 'we'? I don't understand what you're even talking about at this point.
Despicable Me said:Personally, you know what? I don't care at all what other people think about me. People give me a chance because I get them to do so, not because of the way I look to them, how ugly or good looking I am. I simply cause them to be interested, if I want them to be, that is.
Despicable Me said:I mean, heck, I used to actually have a ton of girls who liked me. I had one who pretty much would have done anything for me (Anything.), and let me tell you... She was hot, too. I'm not trying to brag, though. But to prove a point.
Why did they like me? Certainly was not my looks. I faked being a confident guy and I told them everything they ever wanted to hear. That's why they liked me. Guys were just as easy to convince as girls were, of course. I was so good at faking the confidence thing that I was actually quite a jerk sometimes. Needless to say I am not like that anymore. Just a bit of a jerk for other reasons, I guess.
ardour said:No, call me a whining sack of honeysuckle if you like, our life experiences are obviously very different (but thanks for taking the time to respond).
Xpendable said:Maybe is just me, but I've notest that 90% of couples are symmetrically attractive. Meaning none of the two is much more attractive than the other.
I'm not talking about 'gaming' anyone. I'm talking about demonstrating to them a reason why you are unique, why you are interesting, why they need you... Why you are you. I'm not saying you should be "entertaining" anyone. You should simply just be yourself, but by that I don't mean someone who sits at home, or sits in a corner of the room and doesn't speak, or someone who doesn't know how to speak when they have something to say. You have to be the kind of 'you' that embraces their own personality, who they truly are, and basically doesn't give a **** if someone else doesn't like that.ardour said:That sounds like something similar to Game. I don't want to game people - neither men nor women - because it means they're interested in you only for as long as you're keeping them entertained. It's not a good basis for friendships or relationships of any sort.
I can see why. "Outspoken and opinionated"? You were probably doing it wrong.ardour said:Been outspoken and opinionated before, up to the point of arrogance at times. Unlike you, instead of warming to me, women seemed to HATE me that much more.
That sounds like you're making up excuses to me, to be honest.ardour said:The ‘act like you don’t care’ advice applies best to those with other factors in their favour (for eg. some innate charisma, a face that defaults to a smile if not good looks). In most situations, the best I can do is fade into the background by acting like I want and expect nothing. That’s the only way to be acceptable it seems. If there’s even a hint that I might really want to talk to them women nearby go to DEFCON 1 alert.
Pretty much everything I'm saying can resolve all of the problems above, and have for me in the past.ardour said:With those who don’t recoil the interactions can be so one-sided it becomes exhausting and ultimately depressing. There are people out there who are receptive to conversation from a stranger or new acquaintance, true, but more often than not it's up to the ‘lesser’ being to carry it. I have neither the resilience nor the energy to continue with things that way, knowing it will fall apart the moment I 'fail'. I'd rather stick to people who can be bothered asking how I am occasionally. That's quite a rare thing for others to do, take an active role in conversation, that is, to ask questions and push it along.
Ha, I used to be the 'whiniest' person ever. Oh, woe is me. How in the world am I ever going to solve 'X' this time?ardour said:No, call me a whining sack of honeysuckle if you like, our life experiences are obviously very different (but thanks for taking the time to respond).
Because dictionaries are not Life's Handbook and don't explain anything but a word's meaning.Aisha said:Dictionaries are a thing. Why is this a debate?
"What does 'good looking' mean" is the title of the thread.. So..Despicable Me said:Because dictionaries are not Life's Handbook and don't explain anything but a word's meaning.Aisha said:Dictionaries are a thing. Why is this a debate?
See? You're still being too literal. That's exactly my point.Aisha said:"What does 'good looking' mean" is the title of the thread.. So..Despicable Me said:Because dictionaries are not Life's Handbook and don't explain anything but a word's meaning.Aisha said:Dictionaries are a thing. Why is this a debate?
Despicable Me said:See? You're still being too literal. That's exactly my point.Aisha said:"What does 'good looking' mean" is the title of the thread.. So..Despicable Me said:Because dictionaries are not Life's Handbook and don't explain anything but a word's meaning.Aisha said:Dictionaries are a thing. Why is this a debate?
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