Sexual frustration is coming to a breaking point

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Tired of not being able to meet a woman even for a casual thing seems to be an insurmountable task. Despite my issues in my other thread. I consider myself to be  a decent guy with an outgoing deamnor when in the right  situation with the right people.  I tried every avenue to meet women. Its  becoming daunting. Tired of being that loner that has to drool all over himself everytime an attractive woman passes. And seeing every other guy with someone.
 

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Not only does it cause anger with that frustration. But when should it reach the point where you say. Yes? Maybe sex once in a blue moon might help just a little. Isn't that an understandable want, need, desire?
 

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Are you truly frustrated about not having sex, or not having companionship?

Might be a silly thing to say but I probably could go without sex my intire life (who knows I just might :(), but the thing I know I can't go without is companionship, someone to love and hold, someone to hang with in the evening on the couch watching tv, someone to welcome me when I get home (or the other way around) and talk about the day with, making love will be the ultimate expression of that togetherness.
 

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I seriously doubt you've tried EVERY avenue to find someone. If you had, you would have found someone.

But yeah, I kind of agree with Mr. L up there. If all you want is sex, you could get it.
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.

If your looking for sex and nothing more the internet should be able to oblige in that need, have you tried something like xhamster?
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.

If your looking for sex and nothing more the internet should be able to oblige in that need, have you tried something like xhamster?
😁lol. Yes, mr. I my share of internet porn and still have a strong desire to go to sites such as that. But, that is the thing.  I am trying to draw the line and limit the online porn and persue real life interinteractions.  Because frankly it's not helping much in terms of mood. Or being a motivator. In other words it can have the opposite affect I want at this stage
 

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You see for a long time sites as you mention have become the all too familiar quick fix. Which I feel hindered and hampered my desire to persure real life interaction with women. So I have to fight that urge to go online every day. Not to say I dont anymore
But definitely not to the same degree
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.

If your looking for sex and nothing more the internet should be able to oblige in that need, have you tried something like xhamster?
😁lol. Yes, mr. I my share of internet porn and still have a strong desire to go to sites such as that. But, that is the thing.  I am trying to draw the line and limit the online porn and persue real life interinteractions.  Because frankly it's not helping much in terms of mood. Or being a motivator. In other words it can have the opposite affect I want at this stage

A site like Xhamster has members and a "dating" section, I was more referring to that feature, where the dating part isn't realy aiming for eehm ... long term relationships :p

(P.S. good thing on limiting the porn exposure!)
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.

If your looking for sex and nothing more the internet should be able to oblige in that need, have you tried something like xhamster?
😁lol. Yes, mr. I my share of internet porn and still have a strong desire to go to sites such as that. But, that is the thing.  I am trying to draw the line and limit the online porn and persue real life interinteractions.  Because frankly it's not helping much in terms of mood. Or being a motivator. In other words it can have the opposite affect I want at this stage

A site like Xhamster has members and a "dating" section, I was more referring to that feature, where the dating part isn't realy aiming for eehm ... long term relationships :p

(P.S. good thing on limiting the porn exposure!)
Thanks, even so. Its the environment. So that won't be good.
 

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Both. MisterLonely. But the sexual need the frustration Is a dominating factor. Comes to the surface very easy. So yes, of course I want companionship. Whichever comes first. Unfortunately the high sexual need always overwhelms and wins out each day.

If your looking for sex and nothing more the internet should be able to oblige in that need, have you tried something like xhamster?
😁lol. Yes, mr. I my share of internet porn and still have a strong desire to go to sites such as that. But, that is the thing.  I am trying to draw the line and limit the online porn and persue real life interinteractions.  Because frankly it's not helping much in terms of mood. Or being a motivator. In other words it can have the opposite affect I want at this stage

A site like Xhamster has members and a "dating" section, I was more referring to that feature, where the dating part isn't realy aiming for eehm ... long term relationships :p

(P.S. good thing on limiting the porn exposure!)
Thanks, even so. Its the environment. So that won't be good.

You yourself would know that best!

how about tinder :D, over here it's basically a "hook up" app and not realy a dating app, some of my nephews have been egging me on to get on that, don't know if thats the case for the intire world though :)
 
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MisterLonely said:
Are you truly frustrated about not having sex, or not having companionship?

Might be a silly thing to say but I probably could go without sex my intire life (who knows I just might :(), but the thing I know I can't go without is companionship, someone to love and hold, someone to hang with in the evening on the couch watching tv, someone to welcome me when I get home (or the other way around) and talk about the day with, making love will be the ultimate expression of that togetherness.

That is a wonderful notion, L, but once you start having sex, you'll see that it's as natural and normal as breathing is.

I've been on the other side, too. I bloomed quite late, too, as I mentioned in that other thread - 23. And, I used to romanticize it like you're doing now. Once you cross that border, you will not romanticize it anymore ... your appreciation for it will morph ... I can't say for better or for worse because it's probably neither. It will just be different.

At any rate, I hope things change for you in that area (pun intended).
 
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Mr. R, I feel your pain just as much as you do. I miss sex a LOT.

Usually, I have something useful to say, but when it comes to concerns just below the waistline, that's when and where my expertise runs out, I'm sad to say.
 

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Somnambulist said:
MisterLonely said:
Are you truly frustrated about not having sex, or not having companionship?

Might be a silly thing to say but I probably could go without sex my intire life (who knows I just might :(), but the thing I know I can't go without is companionship, someone to love and hold, someone to hang with in the evening on the couch watching tv, someone to welcome me when I get home (or the other way around) and talk about the day with, making love will be the ultimate expression of that togetherness.

That is a wonderful notion, L, but once you start having sex, you'll see that it's as natural and normal as breathing is.

I've been on the other side, too. I bloomed quite late, too, as I mentioned in that other thread - 23. And, I used to romanticize it like you're doing now. Once you cross that border, you will not romanticize it anymore ... your appreciation for it will morph ... I can't say for better or for worse because it's probably neither. It will just be different.

At any rate, I hope things change for you in that area (pun intended).

I get that, and I'm absolutly sure your right about that, however at this point I'd not want sex without love (sheer contradiction to my post on the virgin thread I know, guess I changed my mind for now ;))
 
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MisterLonely said:
Somnambulist said:
MisterLonely said:
Are you truly frustrated about not having sex, or not having companionship?

Might be a silly thing to say but I probably could go without sex my intire life (who knows I just might :(), but the thing I know I can't go without is companionship, someone to love and hold, someone to hang with in the evening on the couch watching tv, someone to welcome me when I get home (or the other way around) and talk about the day with, making love will be the ultimate expression of that togetherness.

That is a wonderful notion, L, but once you start having sex, you'll see that it's as natural and normal as breathing is.

I've been on the other side, too. I bloomed quite late, too, as I mentioned in that other thread - 23. And, I used to romanticize it like you're doing now. Once you cross that border, you will not romanticize it anymore ... your appreciation for it will morph ... I can't say for better or for worse because it's probably neither. It will just be different.

At any rate, I hope things change for you in that area (pun intended).

I get that, and I'm absolutly sure your right about that, however at this point I'd not want sex without love (sheer contradiction to my post on the virgin thread I know, guess I changed my mind for now ;))

This is a crazy random thought, partly based on fact, and partly based on imagination.

What if, you wait another ten years for "love" (who knows what that word means ?), and during that time, 1 - your testosterone levels will stoop quite a bit (fact), 2 - you develop some sort of erectile dysfunction, or your sperm levels decline, or whatever (imagination) ?

:D
 

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Somnambulist said:
MisterLonely said:
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MisterLonely said:
Are you truly frustrated about not having sex, or not having companionship?

Might be a silly thing to say but I probably could go without sex my intire life (who knows I just might :(), but the thing I know I can't go without is companionship, someone to love and hold, someone to hang with in the evening on the couch watching tv, someone to welcome me when I get home (or the other way around) and talk about the day with, making love will be the ultimate expression of that togetherness.

That is a wonderful notion, L, but once you start having sex, you'll see that it's as natural and normal as breathing is.

I've been on the other side, too. I bloomed quite late, too, as I mentioned in that other thread - 23. And, I used to romanticize it like you're doing now. Once you cross that border, you will not romanticize it anymore ... your appreciation for it will morph ... I can't say for better or for worse because it's probably neither. It will just be different.

At any rate, I hope things change for you in that area (pun intended).

I get that, and I'm absolutly sure your right about that, however at this point I'd not want sex without love (sheer contradiction to my post on the virgin thread I know, guess I changed my mind for now ;))

This is a crazy random thought, partly based on fact, and partly based on imagination.

What if, you wait another ten years for "love" (who knows what that word means ?), and during that time, 1 - your testosterone levels will stoop quite a bit (fact), 2 - you develop some sort of erectile dysfunction, or your sperm levels decline, or whatever (imagination) ?

:D

I don't do "what if" scenario's or 5/10 year plans for that matter :p
 

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<😁lol. Yes, mr. I my share of internet porn and still have a strong desire to go to sites such as that. But, that is the thing.  I am trying to draw the line and limit the online porn and persue real life interinteractions.  Because frankly it's not helping much in terms of mood. Or being a motivator. In other words it can have the opposite affect I want at this stage>

I like hearing that.  I'm not a big fan or cheerleader of porn, it contaminates your mind and in your state, that is the last thing you want.  I feel all porn will do is cause greater frustration, because 1) What you see, you aren't going to get. 2) What you see isn't even the real thing. 3) In the end, you will feel empty, images are no replacement.

Somehow, you have to begin focusing on meeting your needs using a different system, because the one you're using isn't working.  Adapt and innovate some new methods for meeting women. All that old thinking advice about volunteering, actually has a ring of truth to it.  The problem is if your motives for volunteering is to strictly meet women, it will be written all over your face.  Plan B, I recommend online dating which I'm guessing you're doing.  The good thing about being unsuccessful in that game, you have the freedom to move about and use different resources and methods without too many consequences.

The focus on sex however, I'm going to tell you from experience, if that's what you are looking for, that's what you'll receive. And it makes the relationship icky, empty, and I had to cut women out of my life like a light switch because I couldn't stand the feeling.  It's an easy trap (habit) to get into, dating and ***ing, and I realized at one point how much valuable time I was wasting.  

Try to put companionship in the chair above sex if you can, I know it's sometimes not easy to do. Especially when getting sex is almost a done deal, I had to exercise better boundaries because I realized I had developed a bad pattern.
 

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Oh boy oh boy.. this is beyond normal at this point. I am very concerned this tension is going to get me in a world of hurt.
Sexual frustration +big mouth = well do I have to tell you?
Not good outcome..
 
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Oh boy oh boy.. this is beyond normal at this point. I am very concerned this tension is going to get me in a world of hurt.
Sexual frustration +big mouth = well do I have to tell you?
Not good outcome..

You need some Xanax or Chamomile tea. I've also tried Kava Kava. They're anxiolytics, of course.

I would suggest a glass of wine, but then, everyone on this forum would pounce on me and say it's a bad idea.

Right now, you need to calm your mind, and I can't think of anything else I haven't already suggested before.
 

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